Psychologists believe that nervousness is an effective way of response and a preparation for coping with external stimuli and difficulties. With this preparation, we can have the strength to cope with the stimulus, so nervousness is not all a bad thing. However, constant tension will seriously disturb the internal balance of the body and bring immeasurable damage to physical and mental health, so children should be taught how to overcome this psychology through self-regulation.
How to overcome nervousness, you can try the following methods:
1, temporarily withdraw. When things don't go well, let children avoid for a while, watch a movie or a book, or play games, or go for a walk and change the environment, which can make children feel relaxed. Forcing children to "keep their original state and endure" is nothing more than punishing them. When the child's mood tends to be calm and other related people are in good condition and can solve the problem, if the child comes back and starts to solve the problem, it will often receive good results.
2, do a reflection every night. Let children learn to think like this: "How tired do I feel? If I feel tired, it is not because I am tired, but because I am not working in the right way. " Daniel Josephson said, "I don't measure my work performance by the degree of fatigue, but by the degree of fatigue." He said: "When I feel particularly tired or easily lose my temper at night, I think the quality of work that day is too poor." If people all over the world understand this truth, the death rate of hypertension caused by excessive stress will drop overnight, and our mental hospitals and nursing homes will not be overcrowded.
3. Modesty. If your child often quarrels with others, consider whether he is too subjective or too stubborn. You know, this kind of quarrel will have a bad influence on the behavior of people around you. A child can stick to the right thing and do it quietly, but he still has to leave room for himself, because he may be wrong himself. Even if he is absolutely right, he can be modest in his own way. After doing this, he usually finds that others will do the same.
4. Try to study in a comfortable environment. Remember, physical stress can cause shoulder pain and mental fatigue. Stress in life is inevitable. Who hasn't experienced tedious and difficult things? Now that you understand this, you should learn to let the children "decompress" themselves, lift the weight lightly and resolve the tension. At the same time, you can also use pent-up energy to do something meaningful.
5. Tell your troubles. When something bothers children, guide them to say it, and don't take it to heart. Let children try to tell their parents, teachers, school counselors, etc. His heart is often much more comfortable.
Help children get out of the "Zhan Sen cycle"
The main reason why children fall into the "Zhan Sen cycle" is that they expect too much from exams, but lack self-confidence. They just want to succeed, but they are afraid of failure, so they are suffering from loss and too much pressure. The process of excitation and inhibition of cerebral cortex is unbalanced, and the autonomic nerve function is disordered, and various symptoms follow. In fact, as long as the right medicine can help children improve this situation.
Relaxation+dilution of test results+concentration+positive emotion+positive psychological suggestion can solve the lack of self-confidence and eliminate the symptoms of being swayed by considerations of gain and loss.
1, relax. British psychologists point out that for children, "wasting time" is also a process of rest and energy reserve. Too many arrangements for children by adults will stifle their independence and creativity. Experts appeal that children should be allowed to "waste time" to a certain extent and let them relax. For example, let children play some favorite games, take them to amusement parks and so on.
2. Dilute the test results. Pay more attention to children's learning process, and appropriately dilute their grades, because after all, there are accidental factors in the exam. As long as the children have a hard work process, we can appropriately dilute the results.
3. concentrate. To cultivate children's concentration, on the one hand, parents should set an example. We can read to our children regularly every day from childhood, draw pictures with them, listen to recorded stories with them, even be their playmates, play some intellectual games with them, and train them to do one thing quietly and intently through role models, then your children will do things seriously and intently. On the other hand, don't disturb children easily. For example, if children devote themselves to playing games, they are cultivating the habit of concentration. At this time, don't disturb, don't interfere and don't interrupt.
4. Positive emotions. Positive emotions can promote children's physical and mental health development. Fadis, a famous psychologist, said: "Before learning a language, children will draw a conclusion from the emotional atmosphere: Is this world a place of anxiety and anger, or a safe and happy place?" Therefore, it is necessary to give children a warm feeling at ordinary times. Even a word of care, encouragement and appreciation that is inadvertently revealed will greatly encourage children and feel infinite happiness.
5. Positive psychological suggestion. In terms of intelligence, children should be convinced that they are smart and creative through hints. In terms of psychological quality, children should be convinced that they are strong, confident, brave and socially adaptable through hints. In terms of health, let children believe that they are healthy and will be healthier and healthier, and at the same time let children establish a new concept of "health and glory".
In a word, parents' normal mind and proper expectation are the best medicine to treat Zhan Sen's disease.