Yesterday, I heard a mother say in the group that the son of one of her relatives went to college and committed suicide by jumping into the lake because of quarreling with his mother. This reminds me of a classmate of mine in high school, who got very good grades in high school. After graduation, I was admitted to an ideal university, and I had a pleasant journey to take the postgraduate entrance examination. When he was a graduate student, the school decided to let him stay in school. He has always been excellent. Later, after many considerations by the school, he changed the number of places he stayed in school to another classmate. He was upset and drank a large bottle of dichlorvos. By the time everyone found out, it was too late. Several years have passed and he hasn't woken up yet. The sleeping man doesn't know the pain and suffering, but he bears his relatives left in the world.

The little cousin who teases girls is 5 years old. Usually, her parents are very busy. This child is basically for her grandparents. Since it is given to the elderly, it is inevitable to spoil the children. But at this time, parents have the right to supervise and intervene. In fact, in order to make up for the regret that they can't always take care of their children, they try their best to meet all their material needs as soon as they see them. As long as children want toys, no matter there are ten or twenty at home, they should buy them again. Children have never lived a life of reaching for food with clothes or peeling bananas. They even think it is natural for her parents to peel bananas for her. Not peeling her is a "big violation."

Many parents are usually busy at work, and their children are completely handed over to the elderly. The old man himself loves his children very much. In order to make up for his usual care, his parents drowned their love as soon as they met. This kind of doting is a kind of abnormal love, and the direct result is that children will be self-centered and have no sense of responsibility, which is easy to form "bad personality".

I am the mother of an office worker. When I was a child, I was taken care of by my grandparents. Once, my grandfather was keen on riding for my little daughter, and my children laughed so hard that I was addicted to it. Every day, I keep letting my grandfather ride a horse. Old people spoil their children, and parents must intervene. In front of my parents-in-law, I seriously tell my daughter filial piety, tell stories of generations and educate my children positively.

In this way, children will not ask for horseback riding after understanding the truth, and grandparents will not take the initiative to ride horses for their children after listening.

All these have warned me that I always believe that there are no wrong children, only wrong parents. All children's mistakes come from their parents' education. In my opinion, it is the unshirkable responsibility of parents to cultivate a sound personality from an early age. About flirting with girls, there are several aspects of childhood education:

Do your own thing.

Teagirl started packing toys, shoes, plates and their areas when she was very young ... these are trivial things, but don't underestimate this. "If you don't accumulate a trickle, how can you become an ocean?" Don't think that "helping children" means "loving children" and "being good for children". Children who are held in the palm of their hands are irresponsible children, and parents' educational methods play an important role in the early stage of the formation of children's sound personality.

Nothing is taken for granted.

I often instill the concept of "mom is tired" when teasing girls, so that she knows that mom needs to rest and she needs to do something for her. Never let a child feel that everything mom and dad do for her is just and taken for granted. This can only make children confuse their roles and responsibilities, unable to understand what others are doing, unable to care about others, and unable to handle the relationship with others.

Indifferent compliments are seldom used.

Of course, children like to listen to praise, and so do teasing girls, but I seldom praise her for being empty, let alone her appearance and dress. What? You are so beautiful, and your clothes are so beautiful, which can only lead to children can't stand other people's clothes being more beautiful than her, forming a comparison. Praise should be moderate, and enlightening criticism is also essential. In this way, children can bear some setbacks and hardships they deserve.

shoulder the responsibility

What impressed me the most was that once I was playing trampoline in R Us, the chick stepped on a child's toe with a heartbeat and made the child cry. At my repeated request, Niu gave the children a paper towel and apologized. After leaving, the little girl cried with injustice. She felt that she was not careful, and it was nothing. After patient guidance, the chicken finally understood that she should be responsible for letting her forgive herself for hurting the child, so she should apologize, send a tissue and be forgiven.

I have been teasing that girl for almost 2 years and 8 months, and there is still a long way to go to cultivate a sound personality. Take your time and stay parallel to my original intention. -Be a healthy and kind person!