Many education experts have made it clear that educating girls should follow the trend according to their characteristics and not turn all girls into tomboys, otherwise, the world will become a "gray". At the same time, if a girl can't identify with her gender, it will be extremely unfavorable for her growth and will also affect her future love and marriage life.
Girls have ways to train girls. Only by fully recognizing the unique character strengths of women and their inevitable personality defects, and cultivating them according to the needs of society for girls, can we cultivate excellent girls.
Second, the connotation. Girls are born to dress up the world, but looks are by no means all girls' capital. Without the connotation of accumulation, the beauty of girls will eventually become a secular thing and an obstacle to their progress. Parents should see the girl's love for beauty, don't curb the child's fantasy of beauty, but guide the child to a deeper realm of connotative beauty.
Third, character strengths. Girls themselves have incomparable personality characteristics, such as quietness and delicacy, which are unique wealth for women. Society needs this characteristic as an adhesive to make up for the cracks caused by male rigidity and challenge. Therefore, when cultivating girls, parents should be able to give full play to their children's nature and avoid rudeness and impetuousness.
Fourth, love. Natural gentleness and kindness make girls more maternal and enrich their inner world. Therefore, girls are more caring than boys, which is also an important feature of female charm. Therefore, as parents, it is necessary to maintain girls' clean love, kindness and conscience, which is the basis for a person to be honest with anyone at any time and the coordinate for girls to be pure forever.
Fifth, be strong. Girls are delicate, but parents should never label their daughters as "weak". Although we don't need to train our children to be masculine tomboys, parents should mold girls into women who are both rigid and flexible according to their unique softness and tenacity to adapt to the fierce social life in the future.
Sixth, independence. No matter whether the wind blows or the waves hit, in the future world, parents can't bear for their daughters, and she has to bear everything herself. Those girls who can't be independent become duckweeds. If you don't want to see your daughter "blowing in the wind", you should cultivate the girl's independent spirit, let her have her own world, have independent operation ability, and don't have to rely on anyone in her future life.
Seventh, self-respect and self-love. Many girls are eager for others to "cherish fragrance and jade", but this is not the case in the world. Instead of praying for others to cherish themselves, it is better to pamper and safeguard themselves. If a girl wants her "beauty" to be eternal, she must know how to respect and love herself. As parents, you can't give your child angel wings, but you must give your child the dignity of a goddess. Tell children that they can't respect themselves, and the devil will devour the whole world in an instant.
Eighth, moral character. Samuel, a famous American writer Smile once said: the quality of a woman will determine the future of the world. A girl without taste and morality will not only cause some pollution to society, but also cause an invisible harm to the next generation. Such people will of course be rejected by society and despised by people. On the contrary, a girl who is eccentric and generous will be highly respected. Therefore, cultivating children's excellent moral character is equivalent to adding points to their social life ability.
Ninth, communication. Girls and boys have different understandings of the world. In the eyes of girls, the world is dominated by "relationships". At the same time, because girls respect harmony more than boys, they prefer to interpret society with harmonious relations, and are more willing to enter the social crowd with communication and seek self-worth. Therefore, the cultivation of social skills is particularly important for girls. If they can't communicate with others because of some restrictions when growing up, then the girl's sensitivity and fragility may overwhelm the child and make her completely unable to identify with the world. As parents, we should be a good bridge to help children improve their communication skills.
Whether you want to train your daughter into a peony or a rich bamboo, you should make use of the situation according to the characteristics of girls themselves. There are no unsuccessful children, only unsuccessful parents. Your daughter's future is in your hands. For the sake of children, open this book and give yourself a shot in advance to avoid the influence of wrong education methods on children's life.