When a person starts to get angry, in fact, he is clear. If he can consciously adjust at first, he can avoid losing control of his emotions. For example, a child doesn't listen to what you say at all. He keeps refuting and telling his truth. At this time, you find that your voice begins to tremble, and an idea comes to your mind: this child can't be reasonable. If you let him go on like this, you can't manage it in the future. Driven by this consciousness, your heart began to beat faster and you blushed with anger. If these signals appear, I suggest you tell yourself, don't worry and calm down. There must be some reason why the child did this. Let me know first, and don't get angry in a hurry. Say this to yourself several times, the breath will be smoother and the children in front of you will not look so hateful.
Please remember that it is a shame for children to make a hullabaloo about.
When you are angry, anything you say can be described as being outspoken. You must have had such an experience: yelling, saying a lot of inappropriate words to children, and even insulting them. You regret it afterwards, but it is like spilled water, which can't be collected, and the natural damage has been finalized. I would like to ask, how many people can pay attention to the choice of words and sentences when shouting, and consider whether it is appropriate? The more you yell, the more you constantly humiliate and deny your child, which will hurt your child's self-esteem. When children's self-esteem is gone, it is more difficult for you to communicate.
It's no big deal. Let it go.
Problems in communication and education with children are actually not serious problems, but are nothing more than learning that does not meet the requirements and disobedience. These small problems that appear in the process of children's growth will not disappear completely or be corrected with your education once or twice. So, if it can't be solved today, put it aside and talk about it tomorrow. If you can't solve it this time, put it down and talk about it next time. There's nothing to lose by slowing down, and maybe you can gain something. We are used to being influenced by a kind of thinking: what can be done today can be done today. This is just asking you not to delay, some things need to be delayed.
4. Learn enough is enough.
When we educate our children, we are faced with a certain degree of certainty. Some parents like to pursue victory and consolidate educational achievements when their children realize the problems. This is very undesirable. Have you ever thought about how much children can absorb if you talk too much? And you continue to strengthen, and the absorption does not increase, but continues to decrease. Like a sponge, it has been soaked in water. Only when the moisture in the sponge is reduced can it absorb new ones. If ignored, sponges are always inflated by bubbles and never converted into energy.
Many times, when you start preaching, children will be patient and have positive feedback, but as you continue preaching, they will become restless, rebel and talk back. At this time, you will stop, indicating that they have reached the critical point of tolerance and need time to absorb and digest. Give this time and space and stop your boring preaching, which is the wisest thing for you to do. We often say to children: Don't challenge my bottom line. So aren't we challenging children's bottom line?
5. Record your every cry.
Try to record your emotions, when and what, just like keeping a diary. Calculate the frequency of your shouting, and if possible, record the effect after each shouting. Frequency and effect, the data is the most intuitive and objective, and will bring you obvious influence, which is more effective than any chicken soup for the soul. Slowly, you will find that with the decrease of frequency, your mood and educational methods have been improved, and education is more convenient.
We often say that educating children is practice, and the difficulty is robbery. Making a hullabaloo about will hinder or even reverse the practice. If you want to soar to perfection as soon as possible, try to control your emotions and don't shout.