1, to truly understand, respect and trust children, and to see some changes or abnormal behaviors of children, don't panic, don't beat and scold at will, otherwise it will only arouse children's rebellious psychology, lead to broken cans and broken falls, and aggravate the gap between parents and children. 2. Respect children's independence, give them certain independent rights, and talk to them in an equal way. Even if the child is stubborn, don't use the tone of command and reprimand. 3. Be children's bosom friends and truly understand their inner world. Children will regard them as the most reliable people and be their bosom friends. 4. Change roles, make friends with children as much as possible, listen to children's ideas, communicate calmly, and give children an appropriate space for free growth. Only in this way can children successfully pass adolescence and enjoy a harmonious parent-child relationship.