Parents generally have two ways to deal with their children's emotions, one is emotional counseling, and the other is to ignore their emotional feelings.
First, parents can understand their children's feelings, guide them correctly when they are emotional, point out their mistakes in time, analyze why they have such emotional problems with their children, and consider their feelings from their children's perspective. This kind of education is behavior-oriented, which can encourage children to find problems and solve them well.
Second, parents ignore their children's emotions and feelings. Parents will divert their children's attention from this matter and make them forget the causes of their emotions. They will convince children that things will pass quickly, such as fighting with classmates. Will parents tell their children? It's okay. It'll be over soon, okay? . This kind of education belongs to free-range education. Parents ignore their children's feelings. Parents want their children to live in their own way. Parents will order their children when they are wronged? Don't cry . Children can only learn to control and solve their emotions by themselves.
When children grow up, they will unconsciously live according to their parents' lifestyle. The two types of children will naturally have different emotional handling methods under different education, and the handling methods between husband and wife will also have an impact after marriage.
When there is a problem in marriage, the first kind of children will consider the problem from the other side's point of view, care about each other, ask each other why they are sad, and actively communicate to find a reasonable solution to make their feelings deeper. And the second is to relieve each other's sadness by transferring, and often say to each other? Don't be sad, it will be over soon, okay? This kind of words, but in marriage, this language is not nutritious, and the other party may even think that you are perfunctory, which is likely to turn from sadness to despair.