The second important thing is to cultivate his positive "I am" consciousness. This "I am" refers to positive self-awareness, that is, being aware of some of your strengths and advantages. We might as well do a simple exercise, that is, talk about "what makes me different", "what hobbies I have are particularly meaningful" and "what kind of person I am". Psychologists designed a "20 times self-description" test, which means telling you who it is 20 times. Now we find that anyone who can clearly tell who he is, that is, those with high academic self-concept, is prone to produce positive self. Many times we don't think about who I am, what I can do and what I want to do. A professor at Peking University even called this hollow disease, that is, he didn't even know what the meaning and value of his life were. This is very sad and terrible.
The third is to cultivate his "I can" consciousness, which is also very important. There is a master who studies self-efficacy named Bandura (American psychologist). He began to do research in the 1970s, and found that if adults or children believe that they have the ability to do what they want, such self-expectation is also very helpful for us to cultivate children's resilience. Therefore, the education of "I have", "I am" and "I can" is particularly helpful to cultivate resilience.