In the second step, parents should actively provide their children with two or three choices.
The first is that children continue to think calmly, and parents retreat to further places to give their children time to calm down. The second is that children can go to school to actively communicate with teachers and seek some suggestions. The last one is for parents and children to discuss together and see if there is any chance to overcome it together.
We can get close to the child and say, "Mom looks at your face and thinks you are in trouble. Mom found you in a hurry. Do you want to consult a teacher or ask your mother for some information? "
In this step, we explicitly asked the children's needs to prevent them from being offended or even more resistant because their parents did not agree with their wishes.
Of course, parents should also avoid only telling answers when accompanying them to solve problems. In this way, parents are like mobile phones and computers. The child's brain is not moving, and his homework is done in vain. So no matter which choice, the child's initiative is crucial.
The ability to resist setbacks, do not regard failure as the mother of success.
Anti-frustration ability is the embodiment of children's ability to deal with difficulties independently and the use of methods. We can flexibly use our own experience to guide children to solve problems. There are many ways, just to leave time for thinking. Don't always preach: don't be afraid of failure, you are the best! But to experience, feel and summarize more in daily life.
Step by step increase the difficulty and take resistance as a challenge.
When parents learn new knowledge with their children, don't think that this problem will be solved and start the more difficult stage directly. Instead, review the old and learn the new, and constantly repeat the children's self-confidence, encourage them every time they finish, and add: Do you want to challenge something more difficult? Children like challenges, and increasing the difficulty by challenging can stimulate their competitiveness and better accept more difficult tasks.
Don't stop children from doing simple problems.
Since you can't accept rarity, slow down and do something simple, because everything needs a cornerstone to build higher. In the face of setbacks, children often exceed their abilities. Let go first, lay a good foundation, and then challenge.
Success in resisting setbacks needs more encouragement.
We should not ignore every breakthrough of children. As long as children put into action and complete challenges, parents should encourage them in time. "You were laborious. I see you working hard. Too handsome! " "You worked hard this time, and you did it. I am happy for you! " Encourage concrete behavior, not bluff praise. watch out for
Parents must pay attention to their children's psychological characteristics and help them do a good job in pre-test counseling. As parents, we must understand our children and set appropriate test objectives, so that children can gain a sense of accomplishment while improving their grades and relieving their test anxiety.
Examination is a way to test children's mastery of knowledge. Some children will have some anxiety before the exam, some anxiety will make them feel nervous, but it will help them, while some children will be very insecure in the face of anxiety and even affect their exam results.
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Help children find the confidence to overcome exam anxiety.
Dabao has always been a child in other people's mouths, both in character and in grades. We have never worried about our children's study. However, two or three months before the children's college entrance examination, Dabao's personality obviously changed a lot, becoming silent and even a little grumpy.
Sometimes when we ask our children a few more academic things, Dabao will lose his temper. Later, my husband and I found out that the child's condition came from exam anxiety, because Dabao has always been very demanding of himself. Even if people around him don't put pressure on their children's study, Dabao will have high demands on himself. When emotions cannot be released, anxiety will form.
In this regard, we tell our children that it is normal to be nervous before the exam, but excessive nervousness will not lead to good results in the exam. As long as you review and plan well, you can get good grades according to your child's usual ability, so don't worry too much. With our encouragement, let children take part in some extracurricular activities, reduce stress and anxiety, and relax their studies and exams.
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Test anxiety has a lot to do with family education.
When children have test anxiety, as parents, we should find corresponding countermeasures to help children alleviate test anxiety and meet the test in the best state.
1. The reasons for the great study pressure. Some parents set too high a learning goal for their children and keep telling them how difficult it is to send them to school. If you are admitted to a bad university, you will be sorry for your family's expectations and put a lot of pressure on your children.
2. Insufficient preparation before the exam. Some children usually have poor grades and poor self-control ability, so they can't concentrate when studying. Parents will be anxious when they see that their children are not active in learning. Some parents will reprimand or scold their children for studying, which will only backfire and even make them tired of learning.
3. Children don't know enough about themselves. Just like my children, they have good learning ability, but they are under great psychological pressure. Part of this pressure comes from parents' repressive education, which makes children feel insecure.
4. Some children have poor psychological endurance. Parents should not spoil their children too much. When children can't handle problems independently, their ability to resist pressure and frustration will be reduced.
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Different anxiety problems need different methods.
Examination anxiety is a double-edged sword. Proper anxiety can keep a child's brain in a state of constant operation.