In fact, some children aged seven or eight are impolite, not because they don't respect others in their hearts, but because they don't know how to respect others and know how to be polite. For example, when visiting other people's homes, he feels that he should be as casual as at home. In fact, his own home is very different from others', but they don't know where the difference is. He has his basic requirements in eating, wearing, walking, sitting, standing and speaking. However, many parents do not remind their children, either because they spoil them or because they think that their children will understand when they grow up, so they let them go. As a result, they gradually developed the bad habit of being impolite.
Of course, children are not born impolite, which is largely caused by the influence of parents or people around them in daily life. Children at the age of seven or eight are very imitative and lack certain discrimination. If parents or people around them don't pay attention to their own image, don't talk about civilization in public, and don't use polite language, children will unconsciously imitate again. It is conceivable that if parents always shout or swear, will children become soft-spoken and polite?
Rudeness is no small matter. If children don't form good manners, they will become unwelcome people and will be alienated and isolated by their surrounding partners, which is not conducive to children making friends and studying. Therefore, we must start from ourselves, set an example, and let children become civilized and polite children.
Method 1: We should regulate our words and deeds.
"Parents are children's mirrors." Children are rude. Most of them are related to parents' own bad behavior, and what kind of parents will teach what kind of children. Parents ask their children to be polite, and they should be polite to others first. If parents themselves are not civilized and polite people, even if they are particularly strict with their children, it will not have any effect to ask their children to behave politely. For example, when asking for directions, if we ask, "Hey, old man, how can I get to the park?" Then when children ask for directions in the future, it is impossible to ask, "Grandpa, excuse me, how can I get to the park?"
Perhaps, this mother is also educating her son to be polite. But in fact, it did not set a good example for children. It can be said that this mother is an unqualified mother. Originally, children are polite, but if this happens more often, children will gradually develop the habit of not giving up their seats to grandparents.
Therefore, to cultivate children's manners, we should start from ourselves. In some specific details, how to be reasonable and not rude, to give children the best demonstration. For example, when we come home from work, the child will hand over a cup of hot tea and never forget to say "thank you" to him. In this way, after helping the child, he will also thank us. When talking with others, you should also pay attention to your manners and avoid rude behavior and uncivilized language as much as possible.
Children grow up imitating their parents' words and deeds, and their parents' words and actions will infect and edify them invisibly. Therefore, if we want to cultivate our children into civilized and polite people, we should be their role models. How can we expect our children to be polite if we are not polite?
Method 2: Teach children some basic manners.
Many times, children are rude to people, not intentionally, but because they are young and don't understand these basic manners at all. Therefore, it is necessary to teach children some basic social etiquette and let them develop good behavior habits.
For example, if there are guests at home, let the children say hello, ask them to sit down, pour them tea, and say "goodbye" when they leave; When children go to other people's homes, tell them to knock at the door first, get permission before entering the door, and don't break into other people's homes at will; When eating, teach children not to argue, not to grab, not to be picky about food; Don't crowd when getting on the bus or shopping, wait in line consciously and enter in order; When you go to public places, you should educate your children to care for environmental sanitation, not to throw rubbish everywhere, not to spit everywhere, and so on.
As long as we patiently instill these basic etiquette into our children, it will be difficult for them to understand etiquette. For impolite children, we should take pains to remind them repeatedly. It is best to remind you in advance, such as going to someone else's house for dinner, and it is best to tell your child the relevant etiquette in advance.
Method 3: Correct your child's impolite behavior in time.
Never concentrate many children's problems and suddenly find a way to solve them. The correct approach should be to solve the problem as soon as it is found. When we find a child's impolite behavior, we should correct it immediately. For example, if children don't use the honorific word "you" when talking to their elders, we can immediately order them to say it dozens of times until they are right.
With the increase of contact and contact, children can easily get into some bad habits and learn some impolite behaviors, and we should correct them in time after discovering them.