In the educational environment of the previous generation in China, too many parents pursued repressive education, often criticized their children's shortcomings and deliberately ignored their efforts. Have you ever had such an experience?

I believe that many children have experienced shock education, but shock education itself is a double-edged sword, which can make children become modest and positive.

Shortcomings will strongly weaken children's self-confidence. Therefore, we analyze the following two reasons for suppressing education:

First, Chinese-style education has a tradition of "don't beat the abrasive".

Many parents think it is good for their children to do something wrong. Therefore, in life, some parents often use sticks to educate their children intentionally or unintentionally because their children are naughty. Even in daily life, deliberately "throwing cold water" to educate children to attack, laugh at and disagree with them.

In fact, this kind of "strike education" will not only lead to children's lack of self-confidence, but also affect their future growth. Although this is the way parents think of loving their children, it is a very painful way of education for children.

Second, China's parents regard themselves more as their children's elders than friends.

Perhaps many parents think that their children are younger generations, not friends. The younger generation should listen to the opinions of their elders and not accept any refutation. In front of children, they are usually very strong. They didn't really listen to the children's inner voice, intentionally or unintentionally put all kinds of learning pressure on them, denying or even attacking their performance.

They will ask their children in the way they think is right, and the children should take it step by step without making any mistakes. Have you ever thought that putting yourself in another's shoes and being denied every day will really erase your child's self-confidence?