Many people may say that there are so many kinds of cram schools, nursing classes and educational institutions that I have no time to be busy, so I will leave them to others. Anyway, I have a lot of money. Does it matter if he doesn't study? I don't care if I get good grades, do I? But in fact, when parents think like this, it brings a negative drive to their children.

2. Respect children's choices

Learning is not necessarily the only way out for all children. Some children are really not suitable for learning, and you can't learn well no matter how hard you try, but there are great highlights in other places. At this time, parents don't want to continue to force their children to die on this road, but to find the bright spots of their children, strive to cultivate their good places, let them improve their self-confidence, realize their skills and the direction of their efforts, and become more valuable people in the future.

3. Avoid achievement-only theory

The supremacy of grades can be said to be a normal state of our domestic families at present. The involution between children and parents must make countless people exhausted. Phil can't deny that the current college entrance examination education in China is indeed the fairest and best form, but it doesn't mean that grades are everything. Besides studying hard, there are many things more important than grades.

Therefore, parents naturally need to pay attention to avoid the theory of achievement only, especially taking children's academic performance as everything, but paying attention to other levels of education, such as morality, character cultivation, humanistic care and so on.

4. Correctly update the concept of education

With the development of the times and the rapid progress of culture, the gap between parents and children may gradually increase, or even evolve into children learning and accepting more and faster than their parents, and parents may even be somewhat decoupled because of their times. At this time, parents should pay more attention to learning from their children, rather than educating their children with the mentality of "I am your parents, and everything I say is right", which is likely to have the opposite consequences.

5. Guidance is not just guidance.

From the perspective of elders or experienced people, it is easy for us to produce a kind of "you must xxx" or "you should xxxx" or "in my experience, you want xxxx". In fact, this is a feeling of arrogance and pressure, just like arranging everything for children, but many times, it is the children themselves who make decisions. What we have to do is to guide children to think in one direction, rather than putting the answer in front of them.