What is the best education? The best education is idle education: students can't see education happening, but it does affect their minds and help them develop their potential. This is the best education in the world. Rousseau. It's really not easy for me to do this. From the point of view of parents, we should use actions to influence children, imperceptibly and smoothly, just like an invisible big hand, silently pushing children to make great strides on the road of learning. The requirements for parents are really high, because everything we accompany or influence in this process is to hope that children can learn from it. However, most of the things we do most of the time are ineffective for children. Therefore, the impact is not short-term, and the long-term spiritual impact cannot be measured by a standard scale. Another point is parents. When we do things with this influence, don't expect him to get your satisfactory answer. I have tried many ways to accompany my child to do what I think is meaningful, but in the eyes of the child, he has not changed at all, because of this. The second point I want to say is that it is not easy to find a way for children to approve. Any method is best only if it is suitable. This is an exploration, and only through continuous exploration can we find a good method, so it is also a process of testing children and parents.
Put the child's inner needs first. No matter what the method and process, I think we always respect and accept the inner needs of children. Accepting this idea is actually a challenge for many people. In our traditional concept of thousands of years, filial piety is the first. If you want to be filial, you must obey first, so it is called "filial piety". Obeying parents' wishes and doing things that make parents happy is an indispensable part of our daily life for most ordinary adults. But now when it comes to children, it is necessary to "put the inner needs of children first", and many people may not be used to this change. Children have their own rhythm. He is not shy, but "slow". He is observing the whole environment, and after he has established his own cognition, he will act in his own way. Don't rush for success, and don't complain, which will disrupt his rhythm, make him more embarrassed, and greatly hurt his self-esteem and self-confidence. Wait patiently, don't always pay attention to his behavior, he will feel safer and more acceptable, and gradually build social self-confidence. We should always believe in children and that time can surprise us. Sometimes planting flowers is really intentional and unintentional.