It takes a lot of time to discipline children. Some parents can teach patiently, guide their children to develop in the right direction and form a good character. However, some parents neglect the discipline of their children. They also believe that it is their own education that makes them grow up well in a relaxed educational environment. In fact, children don't show their hearts. Most children were not properly educated by their parents when they were young. In the growth stage or after adulthood, most of their personalities are strong on the surface and fragile on the inside. It can be seen that when parents neglect to discipline their children, their strength is not really strong, and this will also have an irreversible impact on them. What harm will it bring to their growth?

1. Lack of correct guidance Some parents neglect to discipline their children because of work problems, but when they find that their children can thrive and behave well without parental discipline, they will continue to use this educational method. In the long run, it will be found that this way will bring harm to the growth of children. Some children can't get the correct guidance from their parents at this time, and may not be able to take the right path in the formation of some concepts, thus affecting the three views. Many children go astray and become bad children in the eyes of their parents because their parents lack discipline and correct guidance.

Lack of correct guidance is an urgent problem in children's growth. The reason why every child can grow sturdily and have the correct three views is because his parents discipline him at the growth stage, tell him what is right and guide him in the right direction. On this basis, children's cunning, strength and various excellent qualities are truly excellent.

Second, I don't know how to ask something. Many parents can't guide their children correctly and discipline them well, because when problems happen, parents are concerned about the problem itself, not why children make such wrong behaviors. Many children make mistakes because they don't know how to ask questions at first, which is also caused by parents' neglect of discipline. Because parents lack discipline for their children at home, they spend less and less time together. When children encounter problems, most of them solve them by themselves, without asking their parents. Over time, children's behavior becomes so-called strength in the eyes of parents.

For some parents, not knowing how to ask questions and solve problems seems harmless. Even if the child does not ask, the problem can be solved, so the child will not be guided to express his inner doubts, and the child will form a pseudo-independent character. In a short period of time, parents will not find any problems, even feel gratified by their children's "independence", and even give them more room for growth and exploration. When children are truly independent, it is right to give them room to grow up, but when children are pseudo-independent, they need parents' company to guide them to develop in the right direction.

Third, the heart becomes fragile. Every kind of influence is irreversible for children. Even if children are guided correctly in the future, it may be more difficult because of preconceived ideas. And each kind of influence will eventually lead to children's inner fragility, because children are not really smart, strong and independent, but because of their parents' neglect, which leads them to cover up their inner fragility with false independence, thus forming a sense of distance with their parents. Most children can't accept the separation between their parents and themselves since childhood, especially when they abandon their children because of work problems, so their parents only see their protective colors.

As parents, we should give our children the greatest companionship when they are young. On the one hand, we should understand their growth, on the other hand, we should help them develop correctly. Only when parents correctly guide and educate their children can they really become strong and form an independent character, instead of pretending to be their own protective color.