After school at noon last Friday, I went to the gate of my son's school, greeted the teacher in charge of the small table, and took my son home for lunch. I did this because I overheard him say that sometimes I don't eat at noon because I'm not hungry. No wonder I have observed the food at the small table many times and found that the quality is very average, so it is necessary to adjust it for my son. Another purpose of doing this is to spend more time with my child when I am at home and get to know him better at the small table and school.

After the holiday, I stood by the road and talked to my son. I accidentally looked down and found blood on my son's hand.

Then he asked, "Young man, what happened to your hand?"

The son said angrily, "It's a deskmate."

I said, "Isn't your deskmate a female classmate? Why are you still unhappy with your female classmates? "

My son looked angry and said, "She makes me sick. She often moves around in class, which affects my class. Sometimes she touches me. I have warned her many times, but it is useless. " This time she challenged me, I pushed her away, and she actually scratched me. Look, her hand was cut by blood. "

When my son finished, he put his hand in front of me. Seeing my son angry, I wanted to laugh, but I held back.

I continued to ask my son, "What did you do after you scratched your hand? The son said, I went to the class teacher, Mr. Zhang, and told the teacher, who said I knew. "

I asked again, "Did you tell the teacher about this just now? This is not a complete solution. "

The son said, "I asked the teacher to adjust my seat." I don't want to sit with this female classmate anymore. "

I replied, "Oh, I see. It seems that my son's idea of solving the problem by himself is still relatively clear. "

The son said, "didn't you say before that people should learn to protect their legitimate rights and interests?" My deskmate is often so rude, and I have endured it for a long time. " I even wanted to slap her today, but I held back and didn't continue. "

I finally couldn't help laughing and said, "Dad only listened to your side of the story, and I didn't know the whole process." Of course, it's not that dad doesn't trust you, but that he thinks it takes two hands to clap. Is this female classmate really as unreasonable as you described? "

Hearing this, my son's eyes were red and he looked like he was going to cry. I immediately changed the subject.

I asked, "Young man, do you have any plans for noon?" Tell dad, let me see if your arrangement is reasonable. "

The son thought for a moment and said, "I handed out two English exercise papers this morning." I want to finish them after lunch and read extracurricular books, so I won't take a nap. I am not sleepy. "

Seeing that my son arranged the time well, I went over and said, "Do you feel relaxed doing English exercise papers recently?"

The son said, "It's easy. There is almost nothing I can't do. "

I asked, "young man, why do you feel so relaxed?" Have you summed up the reasons? "

The son said happily, "Dad, thanks to you, the learning method you developed for me is of great use.". Every weekend, you accompany me to preview the words in the new English lesson in advance and get familiar with the text dialogue, and then I will listen to the teacher in class, which will be much easier. " Review the words and text dialogues every two or three days after class. There are some sentence patterns. Now that I have basically memorized the text and words, it will be very easy to do the problem again. "

After listening to his son's words, his thinking is clear and his language expression logic is good. It can be seen that he has mastered the memory method I usually say.

I asked, "Son, can you learn English by yourself without your father?"

The son said, "Dad, I still want you to study with me. Didn't you say that? English is a language. I am bored by self-study and have no interaction. If you practice with me, talking and laughing, the atmosphere is so good. I like this way of learning. You'd better learn from me, a good father. "

If my son pleads, I understand very well that it is not that he relies on my accompanying reading, but that learning English language cannot be easily solved by one person, because language learning without interactive application is similar to talking to himself. Practicing with my son at ordinary times can enhance his interest in speaking and learning, help him correct his pronunciation, master his intonation and rhythm, and find that he still has learning problems. More importantly, you can often practice some written conversations with your son on the road, at home and outdoors.

I said, "Well, young man, my father agrees. In fact, I am very willing to learn from you. When I was at school, I made many pronunciation mistakes because I didn't have learning tools. Now I just use a point reader and an electronic dictionary to correct it. Let's be study partners. "

My son's mood suddenly brightened up.

My son is in a good mood, and I turned to the past again.

I asked, "Dad just talked to you about a slap in the face. I don't blame you for being wrong, because I know that when you are the disciplinary Committee member in your class, you will be the first model to observe discipline. How can you violate discipline with your deskmate in class? " So, you understand? Don't think dad misunderstood you, do you? "

The son nodded with a smile.

I said, "I just said that if she annoys you again, you can slap her." This is inappropriate. Do you want to know why? "

The son said, "Dad, I have principles. You can't do things again and again. She always annoys me with nothing. Can't I give her some color to see see? "

I shook my head and said, "No,no.". Think about it. You are a member of the Commission for Discipline Inspection and a boy. What are the skills of hitting female classmates? If your classmates misunderstand you and say that you bully others, aren't you rational and unreasonable? I think it's better to tell the teacher first. Teacher Zhang will definitely help you solve it, because Teacher Zhang is very kind and responsible and will understand your feelings. Since you can ask the teacher to help you solve it, why do you have to be rough? "

After listening to my words, my son responded, "Dad, what you said is very reasonable. I will listen to you. "

I said, "I should pay attention to it in the future, that is, I see some students in the class have bad habits, and you should help them correct them." Just like when dad chats with you and chats with you as a good friend, people are more or less willing to listen, but if the other person doesn't listen, don't blame the other person, because personal habits need to be cultivated by mom and dad, and it is the same at school. If they don't have good self-cultivation at home, they can't be spontaneous at school.

The son nodded and said yes.

I said, "Let's stop here. Let's see if Mr. Zhang Can can help you adjust your seat this afternoon. If not, we'll discuss how to deal with your female deskmate, ok? "

The son nodded, while speaking, the bus came. Seeing too many people in the car, my son wanted to walk home. I said it was a waste of time. I'd better hurry back.

I got on the bus in the crowd.

After school, I went to meet my son at the school gate as usual.

As soon as my son saw me, he immediately said to me, "Dad, Teacher Zhang really helped me adjust my seat. That's great. "

I asked, "Congratulations, young man, all your wishes have come true. Tell me, how did the teacher adjust it? "

The son said, "Teacher Zhang transferred my deskmate behind me and sat with another female classmate. I have a seat for everyone. "

I said, "Oh, yes, I really want to thank Teacher Zhang. However, I have to warn you, do you want to listen? "

The son asked, "Dad, what are you trying to say?"

I said, "You have a seat alone, but take care of yourself. If there is not much space, you will feel that there is a lot of activity. I move around in class and don't listen carefully. If the teacher sees it, will it have a problem with you? " The teacher will think that this classmate is a little unconscious. It seems that he has to arrange a deskmate to supervise him. Do you want the teacher to look at you like this? "

The son said, "Don't worry, Dad, I am very conscious in class, and I promise to do well in the exam."

I said, "Stop talking about you, young man. When many parents [Weibo] communicate with me, I often say a word to them-I don't look at what you say, but what you do! If you say anyone can, then open your mouth. If you can't do it, you will lose your integrity, which is not conducive to cultivating good quality. "

The son said, "Dad, I know. I will do it seriously and try my best to manage myself. "

I said, "That's more like it. Teacher Zhang helped you solve the problem of being disturbed in class. As a father, I should also express my gratitude. We must learn to be grateful. "

The son asked, "How can you thank him?"

I said, "There are two ways, one is to send a short message to Teacher Zhang, and the other is to leave a message to the teacher with QQ. Choose either of the two, as long as you express your gratitude, I believe the teacher will be very happy, don't you think? "

The son nodded while laughing.

In the evening, when my son was doing his homework, I left a message on QQ for Mr. Zhang, the head teacher. The content is roughly as follows:

"Hello, teacher zhang. Today, Han Xu told me that he had some problems with his deskmate. He reported to you and asked you to transfer him to the same table. You adjusted it for him this afternoon. On the way back from school, I am very grateful to you. I'm touched, too. Thank you very much. You take good care of Han Xu and take care of him like a mother. At the same time, it also taught Han Xu that a little man should learn to tolerate his classmates, help them get rid of bad habits, establish good relations with them as much as possible, and avoid unnecessary contradictions and conflicts. The child listens carefully, and I believe he can listen to my advice. Thank you again for Mr. Zhang's education and concern for Han Xu. I wish you a smooth job, a happy family and a healthy and happy baby. "

I showed my son the information after he finished his homework. I believe this way of solving problems will definitely educate children.

Reflection: Parents can grasp the timing and rhythm of their children's experiences or setbacks and constantly help them solve problems. I think this is the real family education. Education happens every day and continues. What parents should do is to persist, persist, never give up, and never waste every educational opportunity.

Find the right way to educate children, and I believe children will be happy to accept it.