After being scolded by their parents, most children will choose silence, but in fact, the child's heart will always ask, is it because parents no longer love themselves and start to hate themselves? So as to make reckless behavior. "For your own good", you think you love children, but in fact you push them to the rebellious road with your hands.

Only when parents are honest with themselves will they realize that beating and scolding their children is not because of love.

The consequences of beating and scolding children.

"The most important thing in educating children is to treat them as people with equal personality and give them unlimited care." The animated short film "I'm sorry, I'm terrible" said that the older unmarried hero was scolded because his work was not understood and accepted by his parents. When the father peeked at the child through the door, he scolded the child like an egg, which hit the protagonist on the back invisibly; When eating, my mother's nagging and criticism turned into a pile of food that fell into the bowl and was chewed up and swallowed by the protagonist.

All kinds of scolding with complaints, anger and incomprehension are as heavy as a thousand pounds, and they are pressed on the protagonist and suffocated. Gray is not only the keynote of this film, but also the background color of the protagonist's life, which is sad and distressing.

The "helicopter parents" always hover over the children and refuse to retreat. In the end, it will only ruin your own life and ruin your child's life. Children who grow up trembling in the education of beating and cursing will form two extreme personalities: one is particularly weak and inferior, and is easy to be pessimistic and world-weary; Another is particularly rebellious and violent. It is an opportunity to close the parent-child relationship by observing feelings and giving timely guidance and help.

Principal Tao Xingzhi saw a student trying to hit another classmate with a brick. He stopped him and told him to go to his office 10 minutes later. He rewarded the students with three sweets: respect for teachers, punctuality and sense of justice (because the classmates who wanted to beat bullied the female classmates). The student cried instantly and took the initiative to admit his mistake: "I shouldn't hit people for this reason."

What children need is guidance, so that children can understand their own shortcomings and the truth of being a man within their own cognitive scope, which is better than parents' education. Every parent is driven crazy by Xiong Haizi, and beating and scolding children is just a useless expression of angry parents. Smart parents will "see" their children's needs and educate them in a better way.