The characteristics of giant babies include:
Self-awareness is narrow, and it is impossible to predict what impact one's words and deeds may have on others;
Personal attachment, making yourself a part of others or institutions, losing or selling the bottom line of personal conscience;
At the interpersonal and social level, it is impossible to give or enjoy love by manipulating for the sake of manipulating.
The memory of Giant Baby retains the sweetness of being a baby: when crying, there is a gentle hug from the mother, and they try to continue to enjoy this sweetness after adulthood: if I have the right, I will order you to listen to me; If not, save moral capital and let you listen to me by making you feel guilty; If you can't do it, I will die for you and make you "listen" to me in the ultimate way of suicide.
It is not uncommon for adults to become more and more naive in their lives. "Ma Baonan" is a very representative group.
Ma Baonan, as the name implies, listens to her mother's words and accepts her excessive care, leaving almost everything to her own decision.
How did the "giant baby" come into being?
Some viewers found that the words inadvertently used by mothers in dating programs were full of deep love. "The mother of Dalian male guest said: My son is too young, and he is also very naughty. I was defeated by the word' special scouring' in an instant, and I am still scouring. How did I come out to find a wife? " Meng Da published such feelings on the Internet.
There are many similar comments. The problem must be found at the root.
"Giant baby" is because the psychology of adults is fixed in infancy. In the process of parenting in China, children's needs seem to be over-satisfied, for example, their elders dote on their children in various ways. But this is only the appearance, what is satisfied is the material, and what is not satisfied is the emotion.
Symbiosis and omnipotent narcissism are not satisfied, and children are always looking for satisfaction, thus forming a pathological symbiosis with the people around them: I want to be with you, you have to listen to me.
So, how does a baby grow up psychologically? As a child, children feel safe in their mother's constant response, and gradually realize that mother is an independent universe, and his world center will change from one to two, and then it will easily become three, four or even more.
More importantly, after the child was 3 years old, the father took the initiative to enter the mother-child relationship, so the child realized that nothing belonged to him alone, everything had to be shared, and the most important thing was to realize that he was independent.
It was the father who brought the children into a vast and powerful world. But in China families, fathers are often absent. This is even reflected in film and television songs. Only a mother is good in the world, Mother loves me again, Little Tadpole looks for her mother and other works are widely circulated, but when it comes to dad, it seems that only Zhu Ziqing's Back is deeply rooted in people's hearts.
Another reason is that the parents who raised "giant babies" may be "giant babies" themselves. They can't live alone, they must coexist with their children and ask them to listen to everything.