As the saying goes, "family is the first school for children, parents are the first teachers for children, and they are also role models for children to learn when they grow up." Therefore, good family education plays a vital role in children's life. When children were born, I attached great importance to their family education. Of course, I don't just teach my children to recite a few Tang poems, read a few children's songs and know a few Chinese characters, but teach them the truth and skills of dealing with people, so that they can develop a person with healthy mind and sound personality. Of course, for children who are only over two years old, vague teaching of abstruse truth can't make him understand the meaning, and children naturally won't accept it, so they need to start from bit by bit in life.
(A) to create a good family environment
Family harmony is very important for children's growth. Love between family members will help children learn tolerance, understanding, love, love others and love themselves. Without the care of family, children will become more and more indifferent and selfish. I have seen many cases, such as children's depravity, numbness and so on, all because the family lacks love. Imagine a child who doesn't even love his parents and family, will he still care about strangers? Therefore, we must create a warm and harmonious family life for our children and let them live a happy and worry-free life.
(2) Parents should set an example.
In family education, parents are role models for children, and their words and deeds will have a great influence on children inadvertently. Therefore, when parents ask their children to be polite and respect others, can they think about whether they have done so? I remember once, Han Han made a mistake, and I severely reprimanded him and said some harsh words, saying that if you do this again, I will hit you. I didn't think there was a problem at first, but later he actually learned this sentence and kept saying that I hit you. This makes me regret and feel sad. I regret that I shouldn't have said this to my children before. Sadly, my child said this to his mother. Therefore, when children can still correct, we parents must be cautious and think twice about our every move. No matter how angry you are, think about what effect I will have on the children.
(3) Appropriate rewards and punishments, seeking truth from facts, children losing their temper, cold treatment.
If the child is right, we should praise him positively. If the child is wrong, we should correct him in time. Reward and punishment should be measured, and enough is enough. Although education experts now advocate praising children more, I think this is another matter because I have personal experience. Han Han played with building blocks when he was one year old. It was a mistake, but I think he praised and encouraged him the first time he played. I tried to promote his progress, but it backfired. On the contrary, every time I made it, I made mistakes and became particularly stubborn. No matter what I said, he still wouldn't listen or accept it. This reminds me that if I had corrected him when he first built it, maybe this would not have happened. Therefore, I insist that parents should seek truth from facts when praising their children, and should not praise them blindly. Of course, the criticism is more moderate. If you criticize too much, or even hit your child, your child will gradually become rebellious. The child did something wrong, but still insisted on using reason to persuade him that he could not turn over the old account. The most important thing is that what you say can make children understand and listen. Han Han did something wrong before, and I will tell him a lot of truth. As a result, he still went his own way. Later, after listening to the expert's advice, he made what you said more acceptable to children, instead of saying some vague truth. And when the child loses his temper willfully, he won't listen to anything you say, so my approach is to treat it coldly and let the child make trouble by himself. Parents can look on coldly. When the child feels that crying is meaningless, when he calms down, we will try to reason with him again, which will make him more acceptable. If we continue to tell him this and that when he loses his temper, it will only aggravate the situation. If the crying continues, then we can only take him away from the scene and distract the child, which may be better.
Let children learn to respect others.
Let children learn to respect others. First of all, parents should learn to respect their children. This is my consistent insistence. When Han Han was very young, I could squat down and listen to his advice. Some people may say what such a young child can think, but it is not. Although the child is young, he is still an individual. He has thoughts, and we should respect him more. For example, Han Han always brings toys when he goes out. At first, the child's grandfather always refused to let him bring toys, but after a long time, he didn't go out. Although the toy is put down, he will still cry for a long time. Now think about it, crying at that time may be because of dissatisfaction with the disrespect of adults. Later I discussed it with Han Han. At first, I discussed with him what toys to take out. Gradually, he took the initiative to discuss with me and became obedient. Even outside, when Han Han is with his children, I will teach him to respect others. For example, when he saw other children's toys and wanted to play with them, I taught him to discuss with them. "When you are not playing, you can give me the toy for a while, ok?" When other children want his toys, I will teach him, "Give the toy to this child for a while, will you?" Everything depends on the child's own wishes, and the wishes of adults cannot be imposed. I've made such a mistake before. When I was playing with my friend's children, I saw my friend's children crying for Han Han's toys. I always grabbed Han Han's toys for other children without thinking, so later Han Han developed the habit of crying when he took off his toys while sleeping. I think that I hurt his self-esteem, and my disrespect for him has caused him serious consequences, although Han Han has faded after time.
(5) Let children learn their own things as soon as possible, do it themselves, and cultivate their labor habits.
When Han Han just knew how to sit, we had put him on a stool to have dinner with his family. Although he couldn't eat by himself at that time, we insisted on showing him how adults eat, so Han Han slowly learned to eat by himself and learned to eat with chopsticks very early. As long as he can do things at home, he insists on doing them himself, such as sweeping the floor, washing vegetables, taking chopsticks, moving stools and so on. Many parents think that what children can do at such a young age is getting busier and busier. In fact, it is certain that he can't do well, but as long as he participates, if you always stop him from working, he will feel that his mother doesn't need me, and over time he will no longer be willing to do it. Moreover, the cultivation of work habits will make him cherish the fruits of other people's labor more, such as not littering toys, littering and so on.
(6) Create a learning environment for children and cultivate their study habits.
At one time, the family watched more TV, and Han Han watched more TV. Then I thought I couldn't do this anymore. So now everyone in the family has learned to read, even if they don't read, so Han Han also learned to read. Although it won't take long, habits are cultivated slowly, and it will be better if they are accumulated bit by bit. As the saying goes, it is better to go to Wan Li Road than to study in thousands of books, so I will take my children out for a walk whenever I have time. Learning knowledge in nature is more acceptable to my children. Although education experts don't recommend children to learn ancient poems of Tang poetry at such a young age, I think reading these poems can cultivate children's aesthetic feeling and sense of rhythm, although children still don't understand them. As for children's songs and music, it is certainly beneficial to watch and listen more. The point is that Han Han likes them very much. I think it is most important to cultivate interest.
(7) Cultivate children's masculinity and don't spoil them.
Han Han's father is often in other places, and Han Han doesn't see his father several times a year, so as a mother, I should be a good father as well as a good mother. Therefore, I have been intentionally or unintentionally trying to cultivate Han Han's masculinity, but I don't spoil him very much. For example, when Han Han fell, I never helped him up. I always encourage him to fall and get up, and then pat the dirty things on his body. If it's broken, even if it hurts, it won't show. Just tell him it's okay. So now that Hanhan has fallen, as long as it's not serious, he basically doesn't cry, just comforting me and saying, "Mom, I'm fine!" " "Although it seems that I am cold-blooded, I think I am doing the right thing, especially for a boy. I must cultivate his strong character and not be weak.
The above is my family education experience. Again, every child is an independent individual, so every child has his own unique personality. There is no universal education, only every parent keeps exploring and practicing in family education. Some people say that children are the second life of parents, and parents grow up in the process of children's growth. Let's grow up with them!