Before teaching children how to protect themselves, the teacher asked a question: "How to distinguish the bad guys?" Every child has his own opinion about bad people, but their cognition is limited to "bad people have big teeth, red eyes, big hands and evil smiles".
The teacher "blew" the children's naive ideas about bad people one by one, telling them that bad people don't mean "bad looks". Some people are even good-looking, look very kind and cool, and have all kinds of delicious candy and gifts.
Now the child is confused. Since the bad guys look friendly, how can they be distinguished?
2. Teach children to know private parts and be alert to 5 alarms.
It is really difficult to tell a wolf in sheep's clothing directly from its appearance. It is the teacher who teaches children how to identify the "bad behavior" of bad people. Before that, children need to be taught to know their bodies and private parts.
Generally, in life, we habitually tell our children that the place covered by swimsuits is the private parts. Although this method is simple, children can only know a general range through this description, and they don't really understand which parts are private parts.
In fact, there is no need to hide this aspect. Like teachers, we can tell children frankly that boys' reproductive organs and buttocks are private parts, while girls' breasts, reproductive organs and buttocks are private parts. These parts are not allowed to be seen or touched by outsiders.
If someone wants to see your private parts, or let you see TA's private parts, this is called "visual alarm".
If someone talks about your private parts, it is called "voice prompt".
If someone touches your private parts, or lets you touch his private parts, this is called "touch alarm".
Being alone with strangers is called "loneliness alarm". It is especially important to note that when parents are not around, don't accept candy from strangers.
If someone hugs you, carries you and kisses you, it is called "cuddling".
These five alarms are all danger signals. We should make children understand that when someone does any of these five behaviors to him, he can judge that "that person" is a bad person and bravely say "no" to his behavior!
3. Establish a list of "caregivers" and a "circle of love" with children.
A. mom and dad can!
However, this can only be done if it is necessary to help the child bathe or if the child's private parts are injured.
This way can help children to further clarify the boundaries of the body and understand that mom and dad can only touch their private parts under special circumstances.
B. Those on the "caregiver" list can!
Usually, grandparents or others also help to take care of children. At this time, we can make a list of "caregivers" with our children, and the people on the list are allowed under limited conditions.
However, it should be noted that if children are unwilling to write other people's names, they must pay attention to it and find out the reasons.
In addition, be sure to update and confirm the list with your child every few weeks.
C. the ones on the "circle of love" list are also ok!
In addition to the closest relatives, we can also make a list of "love circles" with our children. The people on this list can be hugged and kissed. They are the people that children love and trust.
After the listing of "Love Circle", children can enjoy the care and love of their relatives, elders and friends with confidence and sureness.