Time: Friday, April 22, 2022
Theme: Transformation is bitter, but it is the only way to grow.
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? Dear and lovely conscience online learning group, family members of physics class, good morning everyone! I come from Jining, Shandong, the hometown of Confucius and Mencius, and I am a treasure mother after 80. Fortunately, last year 10, at the invitation of an elder sister, I joined our big, positive and caring family to study. In order to better accompany my children to grow up, I took fewer detours on the road of educating my children and improved myself. At the same time, lead the eleven-year-old son to study together on this platform.
? In real life, the biggest problem I have encountered is that I have been bothering myself and can't find a suitable way to solve it. This is about children's education. With the growth of children's age, they have their own consciousness and opinions in dealing with things. I also know that I can't be obedient after yelling at them, or I will be scared to be honest after a few hits, just like when I was a child. I haven't spent less money on parenting education classes in the past two years, and I want to be a qualified mother of emotional management and time management. However, the reality has not changed because I spent the tuition. When something happened, I still couldn't help losing my temper, accusing, complaining and criticizing my children, and once became a "controlling" mother I hated.
In an assignment I shared, I met a quarrelling mother and son on my way to school, which touched me a lot. After that, I couldn't hold my breath for a long time. I always remember the way that the mother yelled at the child and the state of blaming, complaining and criticizing the child before, which really verified the sentence: look at other people's homework and see their own shortcomings. Look at other people's shortcomings and deficiencies, in fact, not others themselves, but their own true body! I am an unqualified mother. I regard my child as my "soldier" and regulate him with strict and high-standard rules and regulations that I think are good for him. I always thought that "no rules can't make Fiona Fang", but the fact is that I misunderstood the meaning with my own obsession. Rules are used to restrain children's behavior norms and avoid endless degeneration and overindulgence, but they are not control. The rules should be reasonable. Since children are independent and free, they should respect each other and communicate "gently and firmly" when facing problems.
? When we communicate with children, in the eyes of most parents, we always see their shortcomings, but we always pass by their advantages. We can't accept children's shortcomings, and even enlarge the problem to blame, complain and criticize. In fact, from another angle, we can find out the shortcomings, even if there is a little progress, to encourage children, to praise children, to praise children, and to find the shortcomings of children, children will become more sunny inside, learn to do it, and find the beauty and advantages of others. As Mr. Wang mentioned in his voice sharing, we should not try to change children, but should influence them with love.
Spring has come and summer has come. This season reminds me of a wild animal ~ cicada. When the weather is hot, especially at night when it has just rained, there will be many small holes in the soil of the forest, where a wild animal-golden toad (called turtle in our dialect) lives, and people will dig them out and fry them. They struggled to find a way out in the soil, passing through small holes and weak light, trying to open the "road" to the light, climbing the trunk, climbing all the way and changing all the way. The process of transformation is very painful. It takes a long time to peel, cramp, and finally become a cicada, climb to the top of the tree and make a passionate cry. ...
? We learn to be conscientious, which is also a process of transformation. Many times, I feel that I don't have children to touch things and absorb them quickly, and I don't have the deep feelings of children. The child's heart is pure and free from impurities. Adults are tempered and baptized by many things through life and work, and there are many selfish distractions and dust impurities, so change is a long and difficult process. I realized that the harder the road is, the more practical every step, even a small step.
? Grateful for all the encounters, grateful for the family members who support each other in the group, getting along is a magnetic attraction. Because you have come all the way, you are not alone in your study, and you are not afraid of falling behind! Thanks to Mr. Yangming's wise guidance, Mr. Boren's inculcation, and his family's dedication and responsibility!