So, is there a solution to this problem? The answer is yes. Let me give you an analysis from the following points.
I take one of my students as an example. This student passed the KET English test in the second grade of primary school (equivalent to the English level of the senior high school entrance examination).
How did she do it? First of all, it stems from the persistent concern of parents. This baby has been exposed to English since he was 2 years old, and has watched several G-sized English animations, ballads and stories since he was a child. Since kindergarten, she has read books as tall as herself every year.
Having said that, you must think that the parents of this child must accompany them day and night, otherwise how can ordinary families have so much time?
I want to tell you that your guess is only half right. Parents really don't stop spending time with you, but only at night.
In the first few years, when I was 2 years old, my grandparents brought me up, but my parents made a detailed study plan for my children and asked my grandparents to follow it. In this way, not only the children's study is guaranteed, but also the elderly don't have to worry about their usual arrangements.
I believe that it is the choice of most ordinary families to let the elderly help with their children, but many elderly people still continue the method of bringing up their children in the previous generation, and most of them love their children more, which is actually not conducive to their growth.
However, when the task is assigned to the elderly to take care of the children according to a certain plan, at this time, the elderly are not simply taking care of themselves, but "helping" their parents. In essence, the educational method is the idea of parents.
Most parents may stay at night even if they accompany their children, so it will be much easier to organize during the day and help their children with their homework or review their studies at night.
The biggest advantage of this parent is that even though he is very busy at work, he has not neglected the education of his children. The cultivation of his children began from the beginning of cognition, so the children developed very good study habits and then grew up, and parents hardly had to worry about it. This child is very active in learning!
I mentioned the importance of study habits in an earlier article. I also find more and more that habit is the key to a person's success, whether it is a child or an adult.
So, if you are busy at work, don't worry, please start by cultivating children's habits.
Let me give you an example first.
One of my students, Xiao Liang, is a clever little boy. He learns things quickly in every class and can draw inferences from others. I especially like him. But he has a problem. His mother often tells me that children never listen to English at home and never like doing homework.
To this end, I communicated with my parents many times and finally found the reason. The child's mother opened a training class by herself. She works hard every day and gets off work very late. Usually, whether it is school shuttle or homework at night, most of the time the elderly are taking care of it. If the elderly don't understand English, it will make the children impatient, and gradually the children will lose patience.
I understand the mother's difficulties, so I gave her two ideas:
1. When the child is doing his homework at home, take away all other thoughts and give him the appointed time. If he finishes it within the specified time, he can not only play with toys, but also get rewards.
2. I also had in-depth communication with children. Children don't like doing homework. Another reason is that they have no sense of accomplishment. With the increase of homework, children are more and more resistant. So I told him that if I can finish it seriously, I can "reduce the burden" for him. The child is so happy that he wants to finish his homework next time. Although the amount has decreased, his grades have gone up. My mother also recognizes this.
When children are willing to learn and have a sense of accomplishment in learning, they will have a desire to learn. With the multiplication of sense of accomplishment, their self-confidence will also be enhanced, and with the accumulation of time, a habit will be formed.
But it is worth noting that I hope more fathers will participate in the education of their children. For that child, I have never been embarrassed to ask about his father's work, but I think that a mother should pay attention to her child's study while working hard, and as a father, she can't stand by and watch.
In fact, many families have the problem of father's lack of role in education. Fortunately, some families are gradually reducing the occurrence of this phenomenon. After all, children are children of two people, and it is even more inappropriate to give all the children to the elderly.
Family is the first kind. If children have bad study habits or have no motivation to learn, it is likely that there is something wrong with the family environment. As parents, we must respond positively and not shirk our responsibilities.
Habits are developed when children are young, and children have self-esteem. We should also give them full respect and cultivate a sense of accomplishment and self-confidence in a timely manner. There is a good saying: confident people are the easiest to succeed. It also applies to children.
Perhaps the parents are a little overwhelmed by the above two points, so I will teach you another trick: try to shape the image of an example!
As the saying goes, "example is better than words", which is the power of example. You can be busy, but let your children understand why you are busy at an early age, let them see that their parents are aggressive and hard-working parents, and let them feel the same when they live in such a family.
You don't need to tell your child some big truths every day, just try to show the positive side and the positive energy side.
But don't forget to observe children's behavior and consciously guide them to develop in a positive direction. Over time, children will become people like you.
Family environment determines a child's personality and even hobbies. The environment will affect a person, and the family environment is the most intimate environment for children.
For example, a writer's children are influenced by books since childhood, and it is difficult for him to read less; For example, in a music family, it is difficult for children to understand music when they see various musical instruments or listen to various songs every day.
However, this does not emphasize that children should be like their parents, let alone place their dreams on their parents. Every child is an independent individual, and we should give full play to their specialties in order to better cultivate children.
In fact, there are many such examples in our life. For example, parents rarely go home to start a business in the sea, which is very difficult for their children. However, because children understand their parents from an early age, study hard, and finally get into a prestigious school, their work career is very successful.
For another example, my father is a very strong-willed man. When his family changed, he didn't complain, but pulled himself together and tried to overcome the difficulties. Children have been in contact since childhood and have achieved a lot through strong perseverance when they grow up.
If parents often quarrel or even break up their feelings, then the child will inevitably have some changes, which can be accompanied by life, and the child will have some defects more or less in his heart.
Remind young parents that from the day you plan to have children, you should take enough responsibility for them.
Giving birth to a child is not as simple as carrying on the family line. Raising children is more about responsibility and more about giving.