654381October 7, a hotel in Xingsha, Changsha, the reporter just walked to the door of the room of "Eagle Dad" He Liesheng and his son Duo Duo. Before knocking at the door, Duoduo opened the door and said, "I know it's the reporter's uncle who opened the door." Although it was the first time we met, the 5-year-old boy didn't recognize the stranger and took the initiative to greet the reporter.
During the Spring Festival of 20 12, Duo Duo, then 4 years old, became famous overnight because of the video of streaking in the snow, and his father He Liesheng was also called "Eagle Dad" because of his strong and unique education method, which was controversial. Since then, Duoduo has participated in many activities. The most famous are this year's national OP sailing championship, climbing Mount Fuji in Japan and flying over Beijing Wildlife Park.
Father He Liesheng said that he used it to exercise his son's body and will. "If drowning love is heaven, beating is hell, and eagle teaching is walking on earth." Therefore, although his son is only 5 years old now, he has started to talk about sex with his son in a very intuitive picture and straightforward language. "It will be discussed sooner or later." I made a plan for my son's future: to be an entrepreneur. For what is an entrepreneur, the son's answer is: "I don't know, I don't know." "
Talk to your son about sex: it's better to talk early than late.
To the outside world, what we know more about this father and son are those sensational extreme sports. He Liesheng's "training" for his son is far more than that.
When the reporter interviewed, He Liesheng took out his mobile phone and looked at a group of pictures of German children's sex education, snuggling up to his father and staring at him. He Liesheng explained to him in straightforward and detailed language how mom and dad gave birth to children. "You see, mom and dad are in * * *, and then mom's belly is getting bigger and bigger ... you see, this is dad taking mom to the hospital ..."
He Liesheng said: "Many parents feel that they can't talk about these things with their children too early, just like talking about drugs. I have a friend who didn't understand the dangers of drugs when I told my children. I said: let's not talk about this now, we will talk about it sooner or later. It's better to talk about it later. "
Son's life planning: becoming an entrepreneur
During the conversation, the reporter asked Duo Duo: "What do you want to be when you grow up?" Many answers are a bit unexpected, "Be an entrepreneur. (Why? Because entrepreneurs can buy themselves a lot of things. " When asked if his father He Liesheng told him whether he wanted to be an entrepreneur or his own idea, he looked at his father for a long time at the age of five, and then pointed to himself and said, "Myself".
"Do you know what an entrepreneur is?" When the reporter asked questions again, his immature side was revealed. He shook his head and said, "I don't know."
At this time, He Liesheng came out to "clear". He said that he was an entrepreneur, and the goal he set for his son was to be an entrepreneur. "Being an entrepreneur was not my son's idea, but what I did for him. Before 10 to 16, I must tell him what to do and set his direction and goals. 16 years old, parents are chief of staff, and only carry out strategic checks. /kloc-after 0/8 years old, we are the audience and cheer for him. "
[Expert opinion]
Sex education is necessary.
But it should be combined with the age characteristics of the child.
Danny: Director of Changsha Qiushi Psychological Counseling Center, an expert in youth education.
This parent paid attention to sex education for his children when they were five years old. The "teaching material" used is a picture of German children's sex education, which is worthy of recognition. But parents must pay attention to the way of education, especially the age characteristics of children. The 5-year-old is still thinking in images. Parents had better use fairy tale language with childlike interest and aesthetic feeling, such as "Mom and Dad fell in love, and then they had a baby. You are God's special envoy to Xiaotian ",which is too straightforward and * * * language expression. Personally, I don't think it is necessary, and children can't understand it.
In addition, sex education for children should be carried out in different age groups. When children are 65,438+0 years old, their listening and speaking skills will improve. At this time, we can give them "gender education" and teach them to "know" their own gender. Children aged 3 to 5 should be taught to "identify" their own gender and told that "boys should be brave and strong, and girls should be gentle and beautiful".
In western countries, sex education generally begins when children are very young and is integrated into the details of life. There are many materials to educate children about sex. In recent years, China has gradually attached importance to sex education for children, which is related to the cultural differences between East and West.
[Dialogue with He Liesheng]
"eagle education walks on earth"
Xiaoxiang morning herald: What if the child resists the activities you arranged for him?
He Liesheng: That streaking, I pulled his towel away, and he felt cold and didn't want to run, but he immediately went back to the house to get dressed, which made people uncomfortable, so he had to run and exercise warmer. When climbing Mount Fuji, he kept crying that he couldn't walk, but we were already on the mountain, and only the top of the mountain had a supply station, so we had to bite the bullet and go up. Even if I make him cry, it won't be noisy. I can only try my best to finish it. But I never let him do what he really resisted.
Xiaoxiang morning herald: Some people say that you use children to promote yourself.
He Liesheng: No need. I am an entrepreneur myself, and I don't need to use my children to make money. Moreover, the appearance fees I get from every activity are donated to various funds. It is also wrong to say that I have a picture name. I am a little famous in Nanjing. I'm just trying to exercise my child's body and character.
Xiaoxiang morning herald: Does your family object to your way of education?
He Liesheng: (Laughter) Including my wife, they are all against it. My father and father-in-law should be 80% against it, my mother and mother-in-law are firmly opposed, and my wife is 60% against it. I think if drowning is heaven, beating is hell, and eagle teaching is walking on earth. I don't beat and scold children, but I hope that the "hand" of eagle education will "beat and scold" him instead of me and spur him.