Many parents educate at home in order to win their children. They often think that I am older than you, I have lived for decades longer than you, and I have eaten more salt than you, so I am right. As a child, you always have to do what I say, otherwise you will disobey me, disobey me, disrespect me, and I will lose my temper ... Imagine, are you such a parent?

When you always expect to fight for your children from all angles, even when your children grow up, who to marry, the job or the postgraduate entrance examination, and the time to go abroad are all your own decisions. When you get used to being a winner, your children will get used to being a loser. He said that he no longer has an independent life, and all decisions in life have to obey his parents' orders.

Nowadays, many so-called "horse-haired men" live such a life. He may not realize it himself, and neither do his parents. It is this parent-child relationship that has brought great obstacles to their marriage life. As a man, he has no due responsibility for any big or small issues in intimate relationship, and all decisions are made according to his mother's words. In the end, most of such lives end in tragedy.

This is the so-called "winning the child", but losing the life.

What does it mean to win the child?

Winning a child means letting the child know that there is a loving relationship between him and his parents. You can ask your parents anything and respect their opinions. It's called winning. Letting children know and trust is the premise of winning children.

The most effective way to win children is to listen empathetically. It is when children show wrong habits, such as breaking an expensive cup at home and shivering, parents try to say, "What a pity, this cup is really good. But my father also made such a mistake when he was a child. Once he threw something, he was particularly afraid of throwing something. So what have we learned from breaking things? Learn to be careful. Is there any way to help us be more careful? ..."