Last year's hit TV series "Little Joy" showed the educational views of several families incisively and vividly. After watching it, I could see my own shadow. What impressed me most and hated most was the interaction between Victoria Song and Eiko's mother and daughter, which made me see clearly the harm of "repressive education" to children.

Song Qian, played by Hong Tao, shows the education of Chinese mothers incisively and vividly, and is soft and strict with her daughter at a glance. As a single mother, her daughter may be all to her, so she pinned all her wishes on Eiko, thus ignoring what her children really like.

Eiko is actually a "child of other people's family" and has always been among the best.

Once in an English midterm, she won the second place in the class, and her father rewarded her favorite toy Lego.

After returning home, my mother also kindly said to her: It doesn't matter if you get the second place this time. Just do well in the next exam. Everyone makes mistakes.

However, when she saw Lego in Eiko's schoolbag, she immediately exposed her nature and growled at Eiko: "What's so happy about being second in the exam?" Why did her grades drop this time? Let's reflect. "

Mother Song's reaction was really "China". She always puts her children's grades first and denies Eiko's hobbies and dreams. Criticism is always greater than encouragement.

This may also be the idea and practice of most parents in China. They have been depriving their children of their hobbies in the name of "for your own good", just for their "ideal university".

Between the words of Song's mother, although there is no vicious swearing, there is a full cold violence that makes the children feel cold.

It is ok to spur children, why should we use this demeaning way?

Pursuing progress is ok, why should children feel that they are useless?

Let children, like robots, always obey their parents' instructions and live a lifeless life.

Repressive education is the most difficult cross-domain psychological obstacle in children's growth.

Besides Eiko's mother, Batu's mother, Song Dandan, has the same educational philosophy.

In the first issue of Life I yearn for, the most pictures are: Song Dandan has been criticizing Batu.

In the program, a chicken coop was set up. Batu wanted to help, but Song Dandan said, "If the henhouse can be built, I don't think this child will be raised for nothing."

When I got up in the morning, I saw that everyone in Huawei had prepared breakfast. Song Dandan once again said, "How did I give birth to such a loser? How could I be so stupid? "

Although Song Dandan said these words in a joking tone, it really made people feel uncomfortable. I think many children don't like to hear their parents say such things.