In fact, parents don't realize that the more they complain, the easier it is for children to fall into negative performance and form a vicious circle.
Japanese brain experts once concluded that "every child will become what parents imagine." A positive attitude makes a positive child, and a negative attitude also makes a negative child. In fact, whether children will have a bright future has a great relationship with parents' parenting attitude, and the state of children is the result of parents' education.
If parents always stare at their children's shortcomings and never reflect on whether they have given their children the opportunity to learn, they should stop treating their children's education with a negative attitude if they want their children to have a promising future.
But not all parents can realize this. They think, if you don't focus on your child's shortcomings, how can you make progress? Therefore, in real life, we will take a negative attitude towards children intentionally or unintentionally and use negative language inadvertently.
Especially after parents label their children "timid", "introverted", "naughty" and "careless" prematurely, children will subconsciously develop in this direction. Parents should pay attention to the ways and means in the process of education, especially the choice of words and sentences, because children are the least defensive to their parents, and any sentence will go straight to their hearts.
Parents' attitude towards their children determines their future behavior direction. When parents regard their children as excellent children, children will naturally develop in the direction they want, and parents' attitude determines their self-concept.
When parents think that the child is a person with potential and responsibility, such an attitude will form a confirmation in the child's mind, and the child's concept will undoubtedly think that he has potential and responsibility. When a person thinks he has potential, he will think he can handle many things well, so that the child's potential will be activated.
The American Education Research Office once did an experiment: two newly assigned teachers should teach gifted classes and ordinary classes respectively. In fact, Class A is considered a gifted class after the intelligence test, while Class B is an ordinary class. The experimenter told the teacher that Class B is a gifted class and Class A is an ordinary class. After a period of teaching, it is found that the academic performance of students in Class B is obviously higher than that in Class A. It is precisely because the teachers have opposite perceptions of the situation of the two classes that they will unconsciously replace the gifted and ordinary differential education in the process of education, which has a subconscious distinction between children and a special attitude towards the children they teach according to the concepts in their minds.
Therefore, parents should realize that the attitude towards their children, whether studying or living, is equal to their attitude towards themselves, which determines their outlook on life and world, and then determines their life direction.
Parents will cultivate their children into geniuses, and children will also embark on the road of genius, because in this process, children's self-worth will continue to consolidate, and children will think they are capable people.
In addition, in the process of education, parents should pay special attention to the consistency of words and deeds. Many times, parents tell their children that learning is very important, but children never study. When they tell their children to be polite to others, they always speak ill of others behind their backs. Parents criticize their children for always holding mobile phones when they play with them.
No matter how much parents say, it is better to show it to children. Children's imitation of behavior far exceeds their understanding of truth. A child is like a small tree, which needs to absorb enough nutrients from its roots to thrive. Without fertile soil, saplings are doomed not to thrive. So the environment is too important for children, and the positive words of parents are watering their hearts every time.
Parents have expectations for their children and hope that they can become perfect people. This is a beautiful wish. Nothing in this world is perfect. They spend a lot of time discovering their children's shortcomings instead of looking at their advantages. Loving children means accepting all the children, and all the shortcomings have a negative side, such as feeling that their children are restless, but such children are more developed and smarter. If parents think their children are introverted, but such children are delicate and cautious, parents complain that their children are careless, but such people are actually more informal. To put it another way, disadvantage is advantage.