First, children abused by domestic violence have cured their childhood in their whole lives.
We can often see some outrageous social news, for example, in order to please his stepfather and tolerate his stepfather's abuse of his daughter, his father drinks heavily all the year round, and when he is angry, he teaches his children with his fists, so that he beats them to death alive, which leads to a big mistake. Around us, such incidents are common. We can often hear the shrill cries of children coming from upstairs or downstairs. Because it is so common, many people are used to it. Others think that this is a reasonable method of family education. I just want to say that this is all wet. Children who have been abused by domestic violence have lived in a hot environment since childhood. They will be more sensitive and afraid of making mistakes than their peers. They live carefully, just like walking on a wire rope. Even when they grow up, it is difficult for them to escape from childhood nightmares, and sometimes the pain of childhood needs to be cured in a lifetime.
Second, there are many forms of domestic violence, and family education must pay attention to it.
Even today. There are still many families who have domestic violence, although they no longer beat their children. But they will use mental violence, economic violence, sexual violence and other means to treat children whose world outlook and outlook on life have not yet formed. As we usually hear some things that we take for granted, they actually belong to the category of mental violence, such as: Why are you so stupid? ? Why can't you do anything well? Are you a pig? ? If you can't do this, then don't eat tonight! ? How could mom and dad give birth to a stupid child like you? ? Many girls still need to face gender discrimination, such as? Girls are really dumber than boys! ? What's the use of girls reading so many books? Anyway, they are all other people's children. ? These words will inadvertently destroy children's self-esteem and sense of shame. Over time, children will have the illusion that they are not as good as others, but parents are unaware of it.
Third, family education had better be persuasive and not impulsive.
In the face of unruly children, it is normal for parents and friends to have headaches, but this is the time to test the quality of parents. It is suggested that every parent and friend should think clearly about the countermeasures before teaching their children, instead of blindly reprimanding them and letting them find their own problems through guidance. Family education can be strict, but strictness does not mean humiliation. Strict means strict standards and strict implementation. If you really don't know how to deal with difficult educational problems, you can read more works by teachers such as Wu Zhihong and Li Meijin to find scientific solutions.
In short, family education has laid the foundation of children's life, and the blow from parents may take root in children's psychology and grow into a tree to block the sun; The correct guidance of parents will spread a beautiful picture of blue sea, blue sky and vast mountains and rivers in children's hearts, guiding them to move forward all their lives.