People will also call it the "two-child era" has arrived. Now some families even have three children, which really makes the family lively.
The emergence of a second-child family has brought joy to many families. In all families, boys and girls form a "good" word. Children's childhood is no longer lonely, because there are brothers and sisters, sisters and so on. But it also brings new problems to parents, that is, the parenting style of two children is far more troublesome than that of the only child.
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Several major problems faced by second-child families
Having two babies at home should have been a very happy thing, but many times it has brought many problems to parents, specifically the following problems.
Question 1, the boss's jealousy
The boss was the first to go home and was born with his second child. The question is whether the boss can accept the second child and be jealous.
Especially after the birth of the second child, everyone in the family focused on the second child. Whether the boss can accept it or not, and whether he will consider it, these are all issues that parents of the second-child family should consider.
Question 2: How do parents educate their children?
The education of one child at home is different from that of two children. With a second child and two families, fairness is particularly important. That is what we often say, whether a bowl of water is flat or not. Especially some families that prefer sons to daughters are prone to this problem. Let many girls be easily overlooked, and their psychology will also have an impact.
Question 3: Can you take good care of your children?
Taking one child is different from taking two children, so parents should pay more attention. So parents will also encounter energy problems. Many times, when parents deal with two children, it will make it difficult for them to take care of their families.
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Some mistakes that parents of second-child families are prone to make.
Do you know some of the most common wrong parenting styles when taking care of children? The wrong hairstyles we use will deeply affect children's ability to get along with others. Some parents often tell their children that you are the elder brother, so you should keep your younger brother waiting. This wrong way of respecting the old and loving the young will only make children hate their younger brothers and sisters more. They will also be hostile to their parents, and many times they will deliberately make trouble to vent their dissatisfaction and seek attention.
Other parents always pay too much attention to the second child, always think that they are still young and need more care, but ignore the care for the boss. Sometimes parents even think that the boss has grown up and doesn't need to be in charge anymore. Actually, it's not. No matter how old a child is, it is inseparable from his parents' company. Don't always ignore the boss, because your neglect will cause the boss's dissatisfaction.
In addition, there are some parents who are always wrong in protecting the second child, only blaming the boss for not asking why. The end result of this kind of protection is hostility to the second child and endless jealousy quarrels.
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How to make education better and make a bowl of water even?
When parents face their two children at home, they must pay attention to their own educational methods. How to effectively level a bowl?
First of all, Dabao and Bauer should not be treated differently.
I hope Dabao and Bauer live in peace. If there is no problem getting along, they will be treated equally. Reduce the protection of the second child, don't always say "you are XX, you should be XXX". Children should learn to respect the old and love the young, but there is nothing wrong with respecting the old and loving the young. More importantly, we should respect the old and love the young under the same conditions.
For example, if two children have an argument, parents should not be rude and don't rush to blame the boss. But to analyze the cause of the matter and find out whose fault it is. No one is born to make way for anyone. Don't always lock the boss in a box, and reduce the special feeling of the second child, which can effectively improve the good relationship between children.
Secondly, the boss is allowed to participate in the growth of the second child.
When the second child is born, the family will pay attention to them involuntarily. In order to avoid this situation, parents can allow the boss to participate in the growth of the second child. This kind of participation has many advantages. It can balance the boss's lost heart, mobilize the boss's sense of responsibility and satisfy their sense of self-worth. In addition, in the process of taking care of the second child, they can also find ways to get along with the second child, which is also a promotion to their relationship.
Besides, we should consider material supply.
When providing some material goods, there must be a boss and a penis at the same time. This is very important. Don't think that buying a second child will intensify the contradiction invisibly. When buying something, parents can do this and follow the boss's advice. Only in this way can we balance the problem of material supply.
Finally, everyone in the family should keep their word.
In a second-child family, it is also very important that everyone in the family should be consistent in words and deeds. Don't just deal with one thing at a time.
For example, dad always likes boys too much and ignores girls. Everyone should be treated equally, and everyone in the family should do it. In order to better balance the relationship between the boss and the second child.
Mother orange said a words:
Families with a second child need to face many problems. When you decide to have a second child, you must think more, say hello to your boss in advance and do psychological counseling.
Then pay more attention to the boss's emotions in life, treat them equally, and avoid the trouble caused by your injustice. Inviting the boss to take care of the second child together to improve the child's self-worth, I believe it will be no longer difficult to deal with the problem of getting along with others.