So where is the main battlefield of education? I think, of course, the environment that has the greatest influence on children is the environment that children have the most contact with, and that is the family. Family education will have a profound and long-term impact on children's cognition, behavior, habits and even the whole life. Since family education is so important, how should parents guide their children?
In fact, children as a living body are so magical. Children have a strong internal driving force necessary for growth, and they have the main law of growth. Just like seeds, they have the ability to germinate, but they need sunlight, moisture and suitable soil. What our parents need to do is to follow the law, follow the trend, provide the right nutrition for their children at the right time, and let them become the main body of growth. We are just helpers.
Then, in this process, I very much agree with some parenting theories extracted by Wang Zichao from Tao Te Ching.
First of all, he advocated that teaching by example is better than teaching by example, teaching by example is better than teaching by environment, and teaching by heart is better than teaching by environment. What does that mean? In other words, parents use words to let their children understand right and wrong, which is words; The personal demonstration of parents is an example; Creating a good learning environment for children and making families full of cultural atmosphere, such as piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, poetry, wine and tea, is environmental education; Then what is psychological education? That is, children can have a healthy mind and good moral qualities (such as diligence, dedication, self-discipline, humility, openness, etc.). ) while they are healthy. These are all moral education. I think the main body of moral education should be the work that families and schools should do as an auxiliary reinforcement and practice. Then rational education should be more in schools, such as the acquisition of knowledge in various disciplines.
Since children are self-motivated, how can we help them in this process? Then we must do the right thing at the right time.
Take good care of yourself before you are 3 years old. At this time, the child is still very weak and needs our careful care. We should put more energy into children's health and help them keep healthy, so that children can have a healthy body.
In the early childhood of 3-7 years old, to cultivate sex, the cultivation of children's character is a key point in this period. We should let children know humility, dedication, hard work, self-discipline, tolerance and so on in life. At this time, the example of our adults is particularly important, and the subtle education is even more exciting. In fact, we ancients were very wise, and it was during this period that Kong Rong Jean Pear, which we are most familiar with, helped children cultivate a good character of humility.
8- 12 years old, help children cultivate honesty. The so-called correctness is the correct values. At this stage, children should understand the standards of right and wrong, good and evil, beauty and ugliness, so as to help them guide their own behavior.
13- 18 years old, we should cultivate our ambitions, help our children set up their life ambitions, make a good life plan, and let them have clear directions and goals so as not to get lost in the process of growing up.
18-year-old adults want to cultivate their self-cultivation, and they need to constantly practice and improve their own virtues in life in order to be a high-quality person, serve their families and serve the society.
So we found that it is not difficult to educate children well if we do every step well. It has rules to follow, so what do we need to do as parents? Of course, we still need to constantly improve ourselves. Only by self-improvement can children's starting point be continuously improved. In the process of educating children, we should talk less and act more, make correct demonstrations, respect and trust children, and give them the initiative in life. Children will show great vitality and surprise us. We just need to wait for the flowers to bloom!
The above is my humble opinion on education. Welcome to exchange and discuss. Thank you!