Educating children is a lesson that every mother needs to learn. Mothers play a key role in whether children can become talents.

As a mother, if you can meet the seven criteria listed below, you must be a perfect mother; If you can achieve 3-6, you are a qualified good mother; However, if you can't even do three, you must study hard and change!

1

Good mother, pay attention to your promise to your children.

"I'll take you to the zoo this weekend." "When you get 100, I'll buy you a new mobile phone." ……

In life, we will make such and such promises to our children. Many mothers think that their children are young, have poor memories and often fail to keep their promises.

But in fact, the child is a concerned collector of what his mother promised. If a mother writes a "blank check" to her child again and again, she will lose trust in front of her child and hurt the parent-child relationship.

Even a very young child should pay attention to the agreement with him, and don't easily promise what he can't do. If you can't keep your promise, explain the reason to your child and get his understanding. In this way, children will understand the importance of keeping their promises and grow into honest and trustworthy people.

2

A good mother is emotionally stable.

In the face of naughty and unruly children, mothers often get angry and lose their temper.

However, do you know what a child's heart is like?

The classic picture book "Mom who cries when she is angry" tells the emotional changes of a little penguin when she is angry with her mother. Finally, my mother found the little penguin and sewed it up again, but it couldn't make up for its broken heart.

A mother who is emotionally negative and often out of control will make her children afraid, passive and Nuo Nuo, insecure about life and prone to extremes; And a mother who seldom complains and loses her temper will bring more sense of security and happiness to her children, who are optimistic, positive and resilient.

Therefore, if you love children, please pay attention to control your emotions, don't always yell at them, and don't complain or quarrel in front of them. A mother's emotional stability is the best gift for her children's growth.

three

Good mother, don't compare with children.

For children, there is a kind of harm called "watching other people's children."

If you think your child is good, it will easily make him feel superior and arrogant, which will affect his relationship with other children; If you think your child is poor, it will hurt his self-esteem and lead to his lack of self-confidence.

Just as there are no two identical leaves in the world, every child is unique. Some children are good at painting, some are good at socializing, some are good at singing and dancing, and some are talented in mathematics. ...

As mothers, we should accept the differences between children and learn to appreciate and praise them. Children will definitely give you more and more surprises!

four

A good mother knows how to dress herself.

What kind of woman can make herself and her family feel happiest?

Must be a woman who knows how to dress up and loves life. Psychological research shows that "the more fashionable the mother is, the more confident the child is."

A friend of Douma's, who has been running for many years, dresses herself up carefully. She is nearly 50 years old, but she has a girlish figure and charming smile. Husband and wife love each other, the family is happy, and the children are excellent. She became the envy of all women.

A mother who can dress up, has aesthetics and understands life, is optimistic and confident, complains less, laughs more, is full of charm in her husband's eyes and brings a steady stream of positive energy to her family.

Children will be proud of such a mother and grow into a confident, sunny and interesting person under the influence of a good family atmosphere.

five

Good mother, respect children's choices.

The child wants to eat oranges, but the mother thinks apples are more nutritious, forcing the child to eat apples; The child wants to learn to dance, but the mother thinks that Go can cultivate patience more, so she has to enroll the child in Go class. ...

Many times, it is not that the child is disobedient and behaves badly, but that mothers deprive the child of the right to choose and force him to do things that are not of interest, so that he has to fight in his own way.

Children are not our accessories, but a complete and independent individual who has his own ideas and needs to be respected. Although the child's choice is not necessarily reasonable, a good mother will not force the child, but listen and communicate patiently and give the child correct guidance.

One day, the children will leave us. Before that, he needs to experience, try, make mistakes and even suffer some hardships before he can really grow up, be independent and take control of his life!

six

A good mother will order her children to do housework.

Traditionally, a virtuous mother should take care of all aspects of her children's lives.

However, in recent years, more and more facts tell us that the more diligent a mother is, the lazier her children are. It is more beneficial for a mother to "order" her child to do housework properly.

A 20-year study by Harvard University shows that children who love housework have higher employment rate, 20% higher income and happier marriage than those who don't.

As a good mother, we must let our children form the habit of helping with housework from an early age. Children will become independent and responsible after repeated exercise, and their family life will be more harmonious and happy in the future.

seven

Good mother, give children correct values.

Talking about "money" with children is a topic that every mother can't avoid.

The maintenance of the poor and the rich has been discussed for many years. However, no matter what kind of education method is adopted, the most important thing is to export correct values to children on the topic of "money".

My colleague Lan Jie's son smiled and just entered primary school this year. Because the school is close to home, Sister Lan rides a battery car to pick him up every day. One day, Xiaoxiao suddenly asked Lan Jie to buy a car to pick him up at school, because many students' parents drove there, and Lan Jie always rode a battery car, which would make him look down upon by his classmates.

Sister Lan did not directly refuse, nor accused her of laughing vanity and comparing herself. She told Xiaoxiao gently and firmly that the standard for evaluating a person's Excellence is not material conditions, but character, knowledge and ability.

Mother Dou admires Sister Lan's wisdom. A good mother will help her children establish correct values from an early age, educate them not to show off when they are rich, and not to compare when they are poor. She won't say "this thing is too expensive for us to buy" in front of the children, "the family is poor, and only by studying hard can we get rich". These negative words will only fill the child's heart with helplessness and poverty.

In terms of money, children should be taught to love money but not be greedy, "take it wisely and use it properly." For what children want, they don't want everything, but measure the cost performance and necessity, and then decide whether to buy it.

Motherly love determines the happiness of a child's life; A mother's education determines a child's lifelong achievement.

A good mother is worth a hundred good teachers.

A family, even if the family is surrounded by four walls, as long as there is an honest, hardworking, kind and optimistic mother, that is the temple in the children's hearts and the source of happiness!