My son's friend Chen Xiao is a native of Shenzhen. There are more than a dozen houses at home, so mom and dad don't have to work. Living on rent is much better than us ordinary people. I'm afraid I can't keep up with their living conditions after struggling for several lifetimes. However, what his parents give their children is not necessarily a good family and a good education.
Chen Xiao celebrated his 10 birthday and invited many classmates to his home. My son is one of them. When the classmates arrived, mom and dad were not there. The takeaway brother sent a lot of delicious food and a beautiful birthday cake for the children to share.
However, later, the students didn't enjoy the delicious cake, so they hurried home. Because Chen Xiao's father and mother went home, their luck was very bad that day. They lost money outside and began to blame each other when they came back. Later, they even began to call names and kick each other.
The students were so scared that they all went home. Chen Xiao ran into the bedroom on the second floor, afraid to come out.
My son said to me, "Mom, I don't envy Chen Xiao buying designer clothes any more. Although his house is very big, it is scary. "
What kind of family education is best for children? Money can provide a good foundation for material life and buy better educational resources, but this is not the most important thing for children. The living atmosphere of the family and the way parents educate their children are most conducive to the healthy growth of children.
Being able to provide the best education for children, such families generally have these characteristics, which is conducive to the healthy growth of children's body and mind.
The best family education is to teach students in accordance with their aptitude.
My son likes painting very much. He likes to paint everywhere with a brush since he was a child. Later, when he grew up, he signed up for a painting class and became more obsessed with painting. It never occurred to us that children should become painters and learn painting just because they like it very much.
A classmate in his painting class cries every time he paints, because he is a naughty child, and his mother hopes that he can calm his character by painting. But I found it useless, because children always have conflicts with other students in class, and teachers also have a headache.
Good family education means that parents can teach students in accordance with their aptitude. If the energetic boy likes playing football, his mother might as well let him run on the green lawn at weekends. Maybe after playing for two hours, he can sit down quietly and do his homework.
A child's growth is like planting flowers. Whether it is grass or cactus, he always has his own characteristics. The more water cactus gives, the more it will rot and wither.
What our parents should do well is to formulate their own educational methods according to their children's characteristics.
Good family education is to let children grow up in a relaxed and happy family atmosphere.
Some people think that with enough money, life will be happy, but for children, parents' stable mood is more important than money. Although some parents are rich and give their children the best food and clothing, they often quarrel or are impatient with their children, and they are often grumpy to their children, and their children's world is gloomy.
If we have a mirror, we can see what we look like when we lose our temper, how destructive our bad emotions are, and how desperate, helpless and lonely our children are.
Good family education is to provide a stable living environment for children. Besides food and shelter, the most important thing is parents who are emotionally stable. They can accept the good and bad of their children, and they can also let go of their emotions to analyze problems and guide them to correct when they are wrong.
When the child is great, give him encouragement, stabilize the parents' stable emotions, and make the child feel safe and happy. In such a relaxed and happy environment, children can become more confident, cheerful and optimistic.
Good family education is to guide children to be independent and strong.
Guo Jingjing is a model of parenting for many mothers. Although her family is rich, the children are not spoiled at all. Children need to do housework and participate in social practice activities. It's hard, but it's also very happy. Children's ability to live independently has been exercised, and their character has become strong and brave.
Good family education must be far away from doting on children, and children's ability to live independently will become stronger little by little. In the process of growing up, children will overcome setbacks and hardships bit by bit and cultivate strong will. When he grows up, he can face the setbacks in life calmly.
Family is the material basis for children's growth and the first school for children. Let's work together to create the most suitable environment for children to grow up!