How can we develop children's habits? I think there are three ways. First, guide him, then remind him, and then correct him. When we give a child a new thing, we must guide him first. Guidance, can he remember? He can't remember, because it's small, so he should be reminded that he still made a mistake. What should I do? We should correct him. It is these three methods that are constantly used and adjusted, and then the children slowly change.
None of our children are geniuses. We should tell him many things in advance and remind him often, instead of scolding him afterwards. However, it happened that many of our parents scolded their children afterwards. Give him something, don't give him guidance, don't remind him if he is wrong, and scold him if he is wrong. Our children are very wronged. How can he understand? When we talk to adults, sometimes we are vague, just to take care of his face. We must make the children understand. For example, this chair is for you to sit on, not stand on. If you stand up, it will hurt if you fall. You have to talk about it until he falls down. That's not a parent. Some things can't knock on the floor, table, etc. And they can't be used for anything. Is this a good way to teach children? The answer is no, because you are teaching him negative things. For example, if you tell him not to pick it up and shake it, he will pick it up and shake it, because you told him, so don't tell him negatively. For example, as soon as you see the needle, tell him that you can't use it until you grow up. Just don't touch it now. Don't tell him what the needle will do, it will prick your hand or something. Don't say that, really don't. There are some things you don't even have to say, because it's useless to say them. Because children before the age of 3 are very nerve-racking, because they are short and don't know what height is. He touched and pulled with his hand. He was injured and burned. Is this the child's responsibility? This is the responsibility of adults. It's no use talking too much, because he has no such experience. What we can do is to keep him away from this place, which is the right thing to do. If you really want to get close, you should tell him that it is best not to touch the invisible places, and you should remind him. We try our best not to let unsafe things happen. This is called prevention, which is very important. The second is that we told him privately what it would be like if we met an unsafe place. We should educate him, not scold him when he is wrong.
As parents, we should adjust ourselves in advance when educating our children. There must be harmony between parents and children so that everyone can trust each other. Therefore, as parents, we should reduce children's emotional behavior and don't let them lose their temper. If the child loses his temper, the adults must have failed to fulfill their responsibilities. If you have such an idea, you should guard against him in advance. Look, what should you do if the child breaks the bowl? You say nothing, nothing, and then you clean up. Is this right? Obviously wrong. It is wrong of you to beat and scold him. What should we do? Don't tell him how to break the bowl. Tell him to put away the broken bowl first, because it will hurt his hand, so you don't handle it, I'll handle it. Then, after you take away the broken bowl fragments, you must give him a rag to wipe that thing, let him know that he made it, and he will clean it himself. If you are worried about safety, I will help you solve it. If you have no security concerns, do it yourself. Don't want me to help you clean up. That's good. This is a normal education. I don't do everything for you, nor do I ask you to do everything, because it's not right. If you scold him, he will have an emotional reaction. If you don't talk about him, he thinks he can smash the bowl casually in the future. If you can't do it, I'll do it for you. Do what you can. That's right.
Before the age of 3, it is also a crucial period to cultivate children's good habits. When we guide children to read that kind of pictures and texts, the most important thing is to have a correct posture when you read a book. Children should be reminded to sit still when reading backwards. Of course, parents should sit down first, which is to be cultivated. Put the toys such as pictures and texts in a fixed position and let him get them himself. You can get it yourself, which story you want to hear and what you want to see. When you finish, you must read it. Take it back and put it in a fixed place after reading it. You can't say that you can play with other things and throw them around at will, which forms a bad habit. No matter how busy you are, you should stay with her and pack up your things. Or watch him put things away and do other things. Graphic toys, he played for a while, and then he didn't want to play. You put it away and take it out occasionally. It is very fresh. He started playing again, not that he bought a lot desperately. Now many families have good conditions and many toys, and then children don't know what to play. Or he doesn't care about anything because he doesn't cherish it. He feels very rich and has a lot of things. If you break something while playing, don't scold him, because it's normal to break it. Things will go bad. Bad is also an experience to let him know that if he plays, it will be bad, and if he is not careful, it will be bad. This is a good experience. Why did you scold him? Is there anything that won't break? No, if not, what is there to scold? Adults wear things out. You see, if you read this book for a long time, the paper will become warped. This is a kind of learning. Then he will flatten it, carefully flattening it. He will use it carefully, and it will be fine. We remember that before the age of 3, character building was more important than learning. The moral character of life, at this time to cultivate his foundation, we should carefully let him develop all kinds of good habits.
Therefore, it is a good activity for parents to accompany their children, play with them and read books. We are slowly accompanying him and guiding him to be automatic, that is, I can accompany you, you can choose the pictures and things you want, you choose me to tell you, and play by yourself. Instead of doing it for him from beginning to end, not letting him do everything, not doing both. We can see that 2-year-old children are the most naughty. You see, under 5 years old, 1 year old and 3 years old and 5 years old are all smarter. 2 years old, 4 years old, earth-shaking. It doesn't matter. He will be fine in a while, and a 2-year-old child need not worry too much. One day he will be 3 years old, and he will get better gradually. What's your hurry? Sometimes a child is like this, and sometimes he is studying. I will talk about it later. When children grow up, they begin to quarrel with their parents. Quarrel is also a kind of learning. Don't feel bad about quarreling. He grew up arguing with his mother and then studying. If you want to accept him, there is nothing to scold, because we have all come this way. Why should we forget our past?
But four and a half years old is a very important barrier. Four and a half years old is a wall, which is difficult to cross. If you travel through the past, you can rest assured that he will be normal after he is five years old, because many of his good habits have been formed, and this child is easy to take care of. You just need to be careful not to get into bad habits. If you can't pass the age of four and a half, you should be careful and double your habits. At first, he will be more painful, cry and make trouble. You have to be patient and help him cross the four-and-a-half-year-old wall, and he will start to be normal. Five-year-olds are different from four-year-olds and three-year-olds are different from two-year-olds. If I ask someone how old your child is, and he says he is 2 years old, then I know, that sofa, jumping around when you see it, draws whatever you do, that's normal, because this is the way he learns and grows. What's your hurry? That doesn't matter at all. Don't worry. If you can't turn around at the age of five, it means that the four-and-a-half-year-old wall has not crossed, so you should be especially careful and adjust patiently.
So before the age of 3, we should pay less attention to his academic things and learn this and that. It doesn't matter. You just need to cultivate your habits and your interest in reading. Reading and learning come slowly. Don't worry. What's the hurry? We care about him by observing, understanding, prosecuting and caring for him. If a child can't do something, you should help him, because he can't do anything, so you are not careless at all. If he can do something, he must be trained to do it himself.
Things are used up, put them back, tidy them up, and then do the next thing. You can't be careless at all. You can't pee because I'm happy. I can't pee. It was convenient for me here, and the result was a mess. I can't. Accustomed to it, stop, go to the toilet first, and then play after washing your hands. You should remind him, or if he is interested, he will forget all about it. Before eating, remind him that it's almost time to eat, and everyone is preparing. Put away your things, or he will work hard and invite him to dinner. Of course he didn't go to eat, and as a result, you gave in to him and brought the meal. That's it. You ruined the whole habit. Adults should not indulge children too much, no, because he is not sensible. Once you indulge him, the whole rule will be chaotic and it will be difficult to recover in the future. It is easier to be strict and lenient, but it is difficult to be strict and lenient. It is easy to break the system, but it is very difficult to restore the rules. Therefore, it is important not to break your own rules just because you are happy and convenient.