1. First, communicate with the old people to confirm who has custody of the children. Let everyone know that your parents are the real guardians of the children, and everything for the children should be borne by the two of you. Ask the old people to cooperate with you two and prioritize.
When communicating with the elderly, we must affirm their hard work, but at the same time, we must point out that the current educational environment has changed and the previous methods are no longer suitable for the current education. The education and management of children need to be carried out scientifically and rigorously, and children must develop good study habits from an early age and cannot slack off.
3. Tell the old people that the concept of education for children must be based on the concept of parents. No one else should interfere with how parents educate their children. If we all work together in Qi Xin, the children will not be at a loss.
To say the least, everyone's goals are the same, all for children's learning, and it is good to seek common ground while reserving differences.
Of course, if conditions permit, we can live separately, which can minimize conflicts and perhaps avoid a lot of unnecessary troubles.