Adolescence is the developmental period of reproductive organs. As the reproductive organs enter the mature development stage, teenagers begin to have sexual consciousness. Children are very sensitive to sexual topics when they first realize the relationship between gender and sex. At the same time, in the past, parents' evasive attitude towards sex topics also made children associate sex with bad or even "bad". Although children will encounter a lot of confusion in the process of sexual development, they dare not ask such questions for fear that their parents will regard themselves as "bad children". Even if parents take the initiative to ask about the physical development of adolescent children, children will instinctively avoid it.
Parents should understand and respect their children's over-sensitivity in the semi-mature stage. When educating children about sex, we should adopt an acceptable way and look for appropriate opportunities when talking about sex topics. For example, it is necessary to tell children some common sense of physical development and let them observe and compare themselves. Parents can take advantage of girls' menarche, boys losing their sperm for the first time, or some parts of their bodies are uncomfortable, or they have heard some news related to sex. As an opportunity to educate their children about sex, parents can answer these questions for their children. Sex education with common sense of life is more acceptable to children.
2. Sex education should be timely.
When a child's sexual knowledge is still a blank sheet of paper, the color painted for the first time is the most important. If parents can't give their children scientific sexual knowledge, children will get unhealthy and unscientific sexual knowledge through some channels or through peer communication. These unhealthy knowledge may mislead children's sexual consciousness, sexual concept and sexual morality, and at the same time, the wrong understanding of physical development will also bring psychological pressure to children.
Sex education for children is actually not complicated. Adolescent education websites and popular science books can provide scientific sexual knowledge. In addition to general sex education, parents should never neglect the observation of children's physical development and the guidance of specific problems. Books introduce common-sense knowledge, but book knowledge can't answer the personalized problems in each child's development. For example, boys' skin problems, testicular size, vulvar acne, whether the reproductive organs are developing normally, whether the mammary glands of girls are developing, whether the nipples are invaginated, whether the menstrual period is normal, menstrual flow, itching, abnormal leucorrhea and so on. Children can't make accurate judgments without experience, which will bring them. In this regard, parents need to observe and care about their children's development and use their own experience to answer questions that belong to normal development. Parents can also use their own experiences to guide their children to observe their own development. If parents encounter problems that cannot be judged by their own experience, they should take their children to the hospital for examination in time so as not to affect their healthy development.
3. Use books for sex education
Some parents find it difficult to educate their children about sex, while others feel that they have too little knowledge in this field to educate their children. In this case, we might as well buy some relevant educational books and put them in conspicuous places, so that children can take the initiative to read them, which can not only avoid embarrassment, but also achieve good educational results.
4. Take a bath for sex education
In order to avoid touching children's sensitive and shy psychology in sex education, parents can take the opportunity to take a bath together, observe their children's development and introduce some common sense of sexual development to their children with their own experiences. Taking a bath with children, rubbing each other's backs and chatting can increase the emotional communication between father and son, mother and daughter, establish a more harmonious parent-child relationship, and naturally conduct sex education.
5. Sex education for children through video.
Nowadays, all kinds of media are very developed, and there are many movies, televisions and CDs that educate teenagers about sex. Parents can watch these films with their children, answer some common-sense questions through discussion and explanation, and impart sexual knowledge to their children, thus unconsciously imparting healthy sexual concepts and knowledge to their children.
6. Girls' self-protection education
When girls enter puberty, parents should patiently tell their children the reasons for doing so, teach them the scale of communication with the opposite sex, and let them know what girls can't do. For example: being alone in a room with the opposite sex, going to adult entertainment places with the opposite sex, touching sensitive parts of the body and the possible consequences of these things. Through the analysis of harmfulness, enhance children's awareness of self-protection and improve their ability to take the initiative to prevent sexual assault. It is human instinct to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages. When children understand the meaning of self-protection, they will also take the initiative to restrain their dangerous behaviors without parental supervision.