Later, Tao Xingzhi took out another piece of candy and put it in his hand, saying, "This second piece of candy is also for you, because when I stopped you from hitting people again, you immediately stopped, which shows that you respect me very much and I should reward you." Wang You more indecision, zheng big eyes.
Tao Xingzhi took out the third piece of candy and put it in Wang You's hand, saying, "I have investigated it. You beat those boys with mud because they don't obey the rules of the game and bully girls. " You hit them, which shows that you are honest and kind, and dare to criticize bad behavior, and you should be rewarded! "
Wang You was moved to tears and cried regretfully: "Tao ... President Tao, hit me twice!" ! I didn't hit the bad guy, but my classmate ... "
Tao Xingzhi smiled with satisfaction. He immediately took out the fourth piece of candy and handed it to Wang You, saying, "I'll give you another piece of candy to let you know your mistake correctly, but it's a pity that this is the only piece of candy I have." My candy is missing. I think our conversation should be over! " Say that finish, he walked out of the principal's office.
Educational enlightenment
Mr. Tao Xingzhi's educational method fully embodies the art of praise. He originally wanted to criticize the students, but he used praise to make them reflect on themselves and realize their mistakes. The reason why he has such wisdom is that he has a tolerant heart, an equal heart and a realistic heart.
If Mr. Tao never forgets to give a lesson to his students, how can he praise them for not being late when he meets them? If Mr Tao is self-centered, how can he find the respect of his students? If Mr. Tao didn't investigate the situation privately, how could he know the real reason why Wang You was beaten? Without the first three praises, how could Wang You take the initiative to find and reflect on his mistakes? It can be seen that whether parents or teachers can use praise artistically is not a skill, but a mentality.
The change and improvement of mood should also be done through practice. As parents, facing their children, we must first understand their personality and their age characteristics. Some children are cheerful, and perhaps an encouraging look from their parents can achieve the purpose of praise. Some children are introverted, and parents may need to seriously express their affirmation to their children. When the child is young, when the father says "you are much better than when your father was young", the child will be greatly encouraged; But when the child is older, this kind of praise seems childish and powerless.
Parents praise their children's art by inspiring them with almost no "side effects". How to do this lies in parents' full understanding of their children. When parents and children establish deep feelings, even criticism can play an inspiring role. Therefore, we provide some suggestions for parents as a reference, and the art of specific praise is also discussed by parents in real life.