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I think an article reprinted on April 5 14:06 is well written. You can have a look:

Ding Ding went to kindergarten and often went home to tell his mother that "the children in kindergarten hit me". My mother thought it was inevitable for children to bump into each other, and she didn't care. But today, Tintin told her mother that "the child hit her", and her mother also saw several red marks on Tintin's little face, which was very distressing. Dad said, "This is no good. We must teach our children how to defend themselves." But the mother objected: "We can't teach children to hit people."

Tintin's situation must be a problem for many parents. Children will encounter similar situations in kindergarten, and parents have different ways to deal with them. However, according to the survey, most parents feel embarrassed and don't know how to deal with it.

Convince your children first.

Duoduo was bitten by children three times in kindergarten. At that time, I asked the teacher to apologize to our parents, and then asked the teacher to tell the parents who beat the children to strengthen education and educate their daughters not to take the initiative to provoke other children after returning home. If my daughter fights with others in front of me, I must stop her first and persuade her not to hit anyone, otherwise no one will make friends with him. I will avoid my daughter's demands on other children, otherwise it will increase the arrogance of children and become violent in the future.

But these methods are not absolutely effective. (Shanghai Julia's daughter is 3 years old)

If you are reasonable, you must fight.

If my daughter is beaten, I need to know the situation. If she is bullied for no reason, I will teach her to fight back. Of course, I didn't mean to fight back. Maybe it's more about educating children with other children, such as blaming him together or uniting the children who are bullied by him not to play with him! In kindergarten, most teachers are silent and talk to their parents at most, but children will become weak. If you are reasonable, you must fight, but you must know that you can't go too far and stop when you should. I prefer that children's problems should be solved by themselves, and I can give advice. If the child is too introverted to fight back, I think she should suffer a little and let her know that weakness will only be beaten. (Shanghai Shiyu's daughter is 3 years old)

Take care of the feelings of children.

If my son is beaten, I will analyze what happened with him, but in most cases I will not let my son fight back. But in addition to meeting little people, it will be impolite. Otherwise, it is too weak. This question is very controversial, and I have encountered it when I was a teacher before. In fact, it's really hard to say how to deal with it best. But one thing should be considered. Maybe it will be more beneficial to our education to ask him how to deal with it. (Shanghai An Lan's son is 3 years old)

warn

If it is not too serious, I will tell my child how to take preventive measures in the future and let her handle it herself. If it is serious, I will talk to another parent or teacher. Children will not appear in the negotiation process. If the other parents are unreasonable, I won't let him go too much. If you don't change after teaching, let the child warn him not to make it again next time. If you can't, you have to fight back. That's not barbarism, it's self-defense. (Dalian Qiu Si's daughter is 2 and a half years old)

Reasoning with children

Reasonable educational methods give children a chance to experience. When encountering setbacks and disagreements, there are other solutions besides crying, escaping and punching. In fact, children will not lose the ability of self-defense and contingency (normal children have this ability), but they can clean up problems in time, control impulses, and make appropriate treatments and reactions. These abilities are of great benefit to children in the future.

Looking at today's society, a person who can handle things rationally, adhere to principles, cope properly and have good interpersonal relationships will be very popular and easy to succeed. On the other hand, an impulsive, fierce, unruly, indomitable and unwilling to suffer losses is often turned away and unwilling to work with him. Therefore, for the lifelong development of children, education must be implemented. (Shanghai Bai Liping)

Learn self-control and humility.

In fact, many fights between children are caused by children's physical and psychological characteristics. Nerve cells in children's cerebral cortex are easily excited, lively and curious, and often appear unconventional under new stimulation. Moreover, children's sympathetic and parasympathetic nerves are underdeveloped, their attention is not perfect, their control ability is poor, and they are in the stage of visual thinking, so their actions lack a clear purpose, and they often act without thinking, and their actions are very impulsive. The existence of these situations requires children to receive education and exercise in the contradiction of quarreling with their peers, so as to learn self-control and humility. (Beijing Li Kang)

Love to hit people and be beaten.

Here, I don't mention the unconscious beating of children, but analyze why children around the age of 3 will develop the habit of hitting people, and what kind of influence parents' attitude will have on children. Educators believe that parents' different attitudes towards children's beatings will lead to different results. For example:

1, stop it in a consulting tone: When the child hits someone else, the mother says in a consulting tone: Baby, can we stop hitting the child? Such questions can't make children distinguish right from wrong.

Obviously, Yang Yang is always accused, and no one in the whole kindergarten can beat him. I really can't help him.

3. Inappropriate joke: "Kangkang, hit this smelly brother."

4. Verbally stop no action: the child hits people, and the parents just scold the child "Don't hit people." But there is no action to pull the child away.

5. There is no criticism for the action of stopping: it just pulls away the child who hit him, but doesn't tell the child where he is wrong.

6. The overreaction strengthened the child's awareness of hitting people: in the face of complaints from other parents, the angry father slapped him, "Look at you hitting people again next time!" . Children will also learn to beat people as a means to vent their emotions.

These methods do not have a very clear concept of good and evil for children's "beating" behavior and cannot play an educational role. At this time, parents' attitude should be very clear. First of all, we should stop it in time and solemnly tell them "no hitting." Then allow children to complain about the reasons for hitting people. Parents should clearly express their attitude towards this matter and explain the truth to their children. If it is caused by other children, it is necessary to tell children that there are many ways to solve the problem, and hitting people is not the best way to solve the problem. If the child is emotional and can't listen to the truth, he can temporarily "cold treat" and wait for the child to calm down before further explanation.

Suggest ways to teach children to protect themselves:

1. Seriously say "Please don't touch me" to my face.

2. Say "Don't hit me" loudly.

3. Push him away with your hand.

Ask the teacher to explain the situation.

Generally speaking, when children can bravely use the above methods to protect themselves, the situation of being bullied will change after several times. I hope these suggestions can inspire parents.

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