I count to 1, 2, 3. If you don't listen, I won't want you!
Sleep after dinner today!
I won't buy you any new toys until the toys are packed. ...
Threat is conditional love, which always affects children's sense of security.
If what a child does is either to obey his parents or to please them, he will never live his true self.
Threatening to meet rebellious children is even more useless. There is a story about a mother educating her youngest daughter LL: One day, she taught her 3-year-old daughter to practice the piano, but LL didn't want to do what she said. When she was angry, she hit the keys heavily. In order to make her daughter obedient, the mother threatened, "Look how cold it is snowing outside. If you scream again and don't do as I say, I'll throw you out! " "
3-year-old LL took a look at her mother, opened the door and went out without a coat.
This trick is usually very effective for the eldest daughter, and the mother didn't expect the younger daughter to be so "rebellious".
Although it is snowing outside, my daughter is unmoved. Soon it was her turn to beg her daughter to come in, but LL shook her head disdainfully to show that she would not come in.
In order not to freeze the child to death, the mother finally had to please her daughter with hot chocolate and cake and begged her to come in. ....
Empty threats are not good for children who give in easily or rebel.
Even if the goal is achieved, it will cause indelible harm to children and alienate parents and children.
Children's growth is a slow and complicated process. The more anxious they are, the worse the result will be.
Instead of threatening, it is better to try to arouse children's curiosity, mobilize their internal drive, and let them actively develop good habits.
Parenting is a kind of practice, raising children and cultivating yourself.
Parents are the mirrors of children, and 90% of children's problems are our problems.
There is a famous saying: "Every moment, when you see a child, you see yourself. When you educate your children, you are also educating yourself and testing your personality. "
When we hurt our children with actions or words, we actually miss the opportunity to grow up.
Gentleness and respect are the correct way to educate children and the only way for us to cultivate ourselves.