However, we find that in many families, parents' education is a failure, and one of the failures is to have a mother who takes care of everything and a father who lets go. Most atriums advocate the day when "men are outside and women are inside". The husband works hard to make money outside, and the wife takes care of family life and is responsible for educating the children. Looks very happy and harmonious. However, many children educated by this family have many problems.
It is every mother's wish to expect her son to succeed and her daughter to succeed, but it often becomes a kind of pressure. Mothers who are responsible for educating their children alone will become more and more anxious as their children grow up, and this anxiety will sometimes become a constraint and control for their children. When children enter adolescence, this bondage either makes them submit to Nuo Nuo or makes them rebel. My father, who has been responsible for paying for the fun, seems to have been at home all the time, but in fact he is vacant. What is even more worrying is that a mother has many opinions when educating her children and is a veritable "pig teammate". Children educated in this way naturally have many problems.
In fact, the failure of education lies in the suppression of children. Many parents worry that their children will become proud, never encourage them, never praise them, and more often suppress them. This situation is still very common. This kind of education is actually a failure, which leads to children's introversion and inferiority, which is actually very bad.
In fact, the child's growth is organic, and there are four signs that you really taught him well.
First, children know how to coax you. Many children are selfish and only care about their feelings. When such children grow up to be successful and excellent people, you can't be happy. A mother once said that she raised three children. The most touching moment is not how successful the children are, how many prizes they won and how much money they earned, but how much their children love her every time they are ill and hospitalized.
Every time I go back to my hometown, I don't want her to sit in a hard seat. I want to buy her a better ticket. She said that at that moment she felt that her education was very, very successful.
Therefore, if a child knows how to feel distressed, it proves that he has empathy, which is the foundation of a happy family.
Second, children can do housework, live in good order, and take care of themselves in order to make a better living and have sex. If your child can cook his own good dishes, clean his own room and wash his own clothes wherever he goes, you must believe that he can live a good life no matter whether he succeeds or fails in the future. When faced with the impact of life, as long as a person's life is not chaotic, his life will not be chaotic.
Third, children are not afraid of failure. There is a saying that nine times out of ten, life is unsatisfactory, which shows that failure is certain and success is not certain. Then, in the face of certain failures, does the child have a matching psychological quality? If a child is afraid of failure, his life will never go far.
Everyone's life has its pain, and children are doomed to failure once they are afraid of failure.
The fourth sign shows that you have raised your child well, that is, the child will share his feelings and emotions with you for the first time. If something happens to your child, he will share it with you at the first time. Do you fully understand children's emotions?
If you are a trusted parent, your child will share it with you at the first time.
However, some children don't trust their parents. They shut their parents out of their own lives, tell the truth to outsiders and scold their parents.
So if you raise a child and he is willing to tell you everything, then you are really successful. In raising children, you need not only money and energy, but also love and trust.