Which industry makes the most money now? If you ask a question casually, from maternal and child products to early education institutions to various training courses, I am afraid that many people will answer maternal and child at the beginning. Once the child is born, many parents' lives basically revolve around the child, and everyone laments that the child has become a real money shredder.
After spending a lot of money and time, parents are generally full of ardent hopes for their children. We want to give our children the best resources and hope that they can succeed.
Parents are bugs. How can they expect their children to become dragons? This is the best education for children.
So as parents, how should we do a good job in the education of children? The answer is as follows:
1. As a mother, the first person who should invest in growth is herself!
We all know the word "example". Parents in China often "exaggerate and set an example". Education always has a set of principles, but they often forget one thing. Excellent children don't go to good kindergartens. How many training courses they have attended, but there are always excellent parents who set an example behind them.
Many of our parents are actually shaping their children according to their ideals. If the difference between the real self and the ideal self is too great, children will easily have a strong rebellious mentality when they grow up, because children are the smartest and most sensitive elves. They can easily find that their parents are actually "saying one thing and doing another".
A questionnaire shows that children hate ten sentences from their parents. The first sentence is: We can't do it, it's up to the children. How heavy is this sentence? Why do children's young shoulders have to bear the expectations of adults?
At the beginning of this year, I thought I should give my daughter a systematic English study. After studying some materials, I found that the online and offline training institutions are not enough to satisfy me, either the cost performance is not high, or the courses are not rich in gold, and some of them are difficult to form a system. Later, I chose to buy her a special English learning tablet to guide her children to read effectively for 30 minutes every day. Of course, children always lack self-discipline. During this time, I often don't want to read. I have been guiding her correctly in various ways. So far, I have persisted for more than 200 days.
In order to keep my children going, I spent 499 yuan to buy an online English course, and clocked in for 30 minutes every day for half a year. I successfully got half a year's tuition a few days ago. Because of her mother's company, my daughter is very calm in learning English, and many times she even asks me to help her read it. Of course, I will try my best to reduce the current courses and let my daughter help me complete the task.
Of course, these six months not only set an example for the children, but also greatly improved my English. This summer vacation, I received a Russian child to my home for a month. Many things that can't be explained clearly in Chinese can be communicated in English without any obstacles. My daughter also learned the importance of learning English from practical cases.
Parents are bugs. How can they expect their children to become dragons? This is the best education for children.
2. Try to draw your own blueprint, and your brilliance will illuminate your child's life.
Two years ago, I resigned from a foreign company, when I was 36 years old. I just feel that the company has limited room for personal growth. I wanted to see the outside world, and then I became a freelancer. There have been ups and downs in the past two years, and I am strong-willed, but I have never been so firm as I am now, because I am busy and full every day, very self-disciplined and comfortable. I often chat with my predecessors and talk about my current situation. Many people in the company are "ringing the bell one day at home". They are as calm as water, dissatisfied with the status quo, but unable to change. They envy and yearn for my state.
When I came out, I felt that the outside world was vast. When I used to do technology, I spent most of my time dealing with computers and contacting different people and things. I found that people in their forties tend to go in two opposite directions, either their horizons are getting narrower and narrower, they are isolated from the world, they are immersed in trivial work and daily life, and they live a repetitive mechanized life, or their lives become richer and more attractive, just like a glass of old wine.
I used to go to work regularly and always asked the elderly to take care of the children. After I started freelancing, I invited the old people back to their hometown to take care of their children. Now, because the child knows that her mother is very busy, I will study outside when she is in a special class; I cook at home, and she reads and plays by herself; While she was doing her homework, I summarized my lessons. Discuss the daily affairs of the day at the dinner table and find out the time for reading and entertainment after dinner.
We depend on each other, do not interfere with each other, and everything is just right. Because I firmly believe that if I project all my worries on my child and do everything for her, then she will not learn to make her own decisions and learn to think independently. Only by leaving enough personal space for the child can she develop a completely independent personality.
Parents are bugs. How can they expect their children to become dragons? This is the best education for children.
Children are angels sent to us by God. They came to this world to teach their parents how to love others and constantly overcome the difficulties of raising children. This is the process of our exploration, practice and rebirth.
Food and clothing used to be a problem, so parents' love focused on sacrificing their children's material needs to ensure their material living conditions.
Parents are bugs. How can they expect their children to become dragons? This is the best education for children.
Every child is a unique individual. Cultivating children's self first is the most basic personality structure. Only when one has self can one have a series of other qualities such as correct judgment, self-regulation, self-esteem, self-discipline and self-confidence.
We can't parasitize ourselves on children.