1, clearly tell the children the fact of divorce. Some parents divorced and chose to hide it in order not to hurt their children. As we all know, children have the sharpest eyes and ears in the world, and he can capture the symbols of disharmony at home for the first time. Many times, it is better to tell your child frankly than to hide it. This can dispel children's wild guesses, let them know the truth of the matter, and guide them to know and accept the facts.

Don't blame the people who left. Divorced parents should not bring any negative thoughts to their children: if parents are separated, neither party should speak ill of the other in front of the children, let alone often accuse the other party after separation. Let children gradually understand that separation is because parents no longer love each other. This is an adult's decision and choice, not anyone's fault.

Parents who take care of their children should not prevent each other from meeting their children, but try to provide a relaxed environment so that they can continue to get along with their children and each other, so that children can feel that although their parents are separated, their love for them has not changed.

3. Don't indulge your child because of psychological compensation. "My child has no mother (father), which is quite pitiful." Many parents hold this kind of psychological compensation and meet their children's requirements unprincipled. This is not a child who loves them. The more divorced the family, the more parents should ask their children to abide by a basic "golden mean" principle and make clear what their children should and should not do; What is reasonable for a child can satisfy him, and what is unreasonable should never be done by parents. Only in this way can it be conducive to the healthy growth of children.

4. The leaving party should treat the alienation of children rationally. After divorce, although you have the right to visit your children regularly, it is easy for the departing party to be rejected by the children, or for the other party to "brainwash" the children, or because the children feel that getting too close to the departing party is a betrayal of their caregivers, or because the children have misunderstandings and antipathy to the departing party. In any case, just because the child is temporarily alienated, you can't think that no matter how hard you try, it will be futile.

Living a good life is the best education for children. Some people can't get out of the failed marriage after divorce, and they are depressed every day, which produces all kinds of negative emotions, which is very unfavorable for the growth of children. As a single parent, don't talk to our children when we are in a bad mood. Show them the positive side of life as much as possible, set their own life goals again, work hard for them and lead them to grow together.