Weekly topic children make mistakes, how to educate them? Some parents think that "a dutiful son is born under the stick" and "if you don't fight, you will be the black sheep"; Some parents also believe that beating children will only make them rebel, and many family tragedies are caused by beating children. Therefore, educating children depends on "reasoning" with one mouth and one word. This week, Meizhou. Every week, the topic will discuss with you "Should the child make a mistake?" As of press time, 6 1.54% of netizens chose "Do you want to fight", 26.92% thought "you shouldn't fight", and 1 1.54% agreed "you should fight". Netizens discuss whether to call wangyr: if you make a mistake, call first and then make sense. When a child is beaten, he is injured before he knows that he is wrong. Ai Juxiang: It's time to fight. Beating is the embodiment of parents' strict education for their children, and beating is punishment education. A complete education should include punishment, but pay attention to discretion. Shouldn't play with the sword leopard: educate children, teach three points, teach seven points and so on. Parents are more of a demonstration education for their children and have enough patience. Pjb_: The best way to educate children is to lead by example. As the saying goes, "those who are near the ink are black, and those who are near the ink are black." Children have a strong imitation ability. When we often set a good example, children will develop in a good direction imperceptibly. It depends. I want 10 thousand: the child made a mistake, reason with him and educate him. If he does it again next time, he should remind the child by phone. A touch of red dust: whether to fight or not depends on the specific situation of the child. We must follow the principle of "teaching students in accordance with their aptitude", that is, as the old saying goes: first, lead by example, second, and third. This is aimed at the child's personality characteristics. In real life, there are indeed invulnerable children, and fighting may be a helpless choice. Recently, Ms. Liu's daughter Fangfang always threatened her parents to give her snacks by not eating. On this day, Fangfang did the same thing again, but Ms. Liu did not invite her to dinner as before, but said that she could not eat, but she could not eat until the next meal. Fangfang saved face and finally decided not to eat. At the dinner table, Ms. Liu deliberately smiled and talked with her family about how a child could be stupid enough to blackmail others if he couldn't eat. She is hungry, not others. "This was Fangfang heard. Since then, she has never said anything about not eating. Ms. Liu said that there are not a few relatives and friends who beat and scold their children because of their mistakes. She thinks that children can still be educated without beating and cursing. In the interview, the reporter learned that there are very few parents who severely punish their children like Chinese tiger mother Chua Meier. When they make mistakes, they take "beating is pro, scolding is love" as the principle. There are not a few parents like Ms. Liu who can educate their children with "cleverness" instead of beating and scolding. Most parents think that educating children should be convincing, not just beating and cursing. Only occasionally do they "do it when it's time to do it"-sometimes it's useless to be reasonable, and you can't see the effect until you fight. Teacher Liu: After repeated education, I can't beat Teacher Liu's son Dongdong. If you are slightly dissatisfied with someone recently, you spit on them. Every time Mr. Liu preached to Dongdong earnestly, Dongdong retorted, "Kindergarten students are like this. Why can't I if others can? " Recently, Mr. Liu was watching a football match, and Dongdong changed the channel without saying a word. Teacher Liu criticized him a few words, and he began to spit on Teacher Liu. Mr. Liu dragged Dongdong to the balcony, pulled out his belt and drew two whips on Dongdong. Mr. Liu said, "As long as he is not out of line, we won't hit him. Only this time he kept teaching, and only playing can make him remember for a long time. Sure enough, he will converge a lot. " Ms. Luo: If you don't study hard and listen to advice, what can you do except play? Ms. Luo had to check her son changchang's recitation of the text. After repeated urging, changchang reluctantly turned off the TV and went back to school. "This is a simple paragraph. I can recite it by listening to him for more than ten times while doing housework, but he just can't recite it. He also said that he would go to the living room to recite, while absently glancing at the direction of the TV. I am so angry! " Ms. Luo said: "I didn't study hard when I was a child. When my mother hit me, I didn't dare. So I patted Chang Chang, just like a gourd painting gourd ladle. Sure enough, he didn't dare to be half-hearted, and soon recited it. " Ms. Luo lamented: "I study hard and my grades are still not good. I won't ask him, let alone hit him. But he often doesn't study hard. Almost every time I reason with him, he ignores me as if he didn't hear me. I have no patience, but I will hit him when I am angry. " Ms. Luo said that although this has no effect, sometimes there is really no way but to fight. Expert opinion He Xuhua, lecturer of Meizhou Parent School Lecturer Group and deputy head and lecturer of Meixian Parent School Lecturer Group, believes that beating and scolding children is a manifestation of backward educational thinking and educational incompetence. Beating and scolding children will only have two consequences. First, it will make children form a cowardly and timid character; The second is to plant the seeds of irritability and disability in children's hearts. Beating and scolding children may have a temporary deterrent effect, but it is easier to force children to make mistakes by hidden means, or to hide them by deception after making mistakes. Therefore, children should not be beaten or scolded at any time. However, not beating and cursing does not mean not criticizing. After a child makes a mistake, he should adopt the method of positive criticism in time for education, that is, first affirm the commendable achievements, and then patiently explain the method of next progress. Ye Liechang of the Committee Office believes that educating children should adhere to an understanding and tolerant attitude. Why, children will take the initiative to imitate when they are one to four years old. Most of the things they do are based on their parents, but they may also make mistakes because of their limited ability or learn from their parents' bad habits. At this time, if the way of beating and cursing is adopted, it will stifle the child's imitation ability, affect the child's intellectual development, and may also let the child learn cruel ways. In the development stage of children, children will observe the society, but because of their poor ability to distinguish right from wrong, the behavior of people around them can easily affect them. During this period, children make mistakes, and parents should try to find reasons from themselves. In primary school, it is normal that children can't concentrate on their studies for a long time because of the limitation of physiological conditions. Parents should not beat and scold their children because they are active and can't study for a long time, but should adjust their schedule according to their physiological laws to help them improve their learning efficiency. In middle school, children are prone to rebellious psychology. At this time, parents should not play hardball with their children. They should communicate with their children more and understand their thoughts. If repeated preaching doesn't work, they can adopt indirect education. Ye Liechang reminded that if the child loses control for a while, parents should immediately explain the reasons to the child, do a good job of appeasement, and put down their bodies to apologize to the child. Remember to adopt