Understanding children and discovering their bright spots and interests are the basis of education. Appropriate praise and encouragement are essential, but we should avoid emptiness and exaggeration. This paper will introduce how to communicate with children heart to heart, cultivate their independent thinking ability and let them feel their uniqueness.

Sincere praise and encouragement

Appropriate praise and encouragement are essential, but we should avoid emptiness and exaggeration. Replacing "you are the best" with "you are great" is more sincere and more acceptable to children.

Heart to heart communication

Set aside 1 hour every night for heart-to-heart communication with children. This kind of communication can give you a deeper understanding of their inner world. As their friends, give them constructive suggestions, but always let them make their own choices.

Cultivate independent thinking ability

As their friends, give them constructive suggestions, but always let them make their own choices. For example, "I agree with you very much. What do you think if we handle it this way? Doing so can not only cultivate their independent thinking ability, but also make them more confident.

Respect and encourage children's interests.

Respect and encourage children's interests and let them feel their uniqueness. When they find that they can do what others can't, self-confidence will naturally arise.