Parents are always very cautious about the rules their children should follow. Let children find out the reasons for doing something wrong and teach them to overcome these difficulties. Every parent is worried about their children's education. The following are the rules and methods that children should follow.

Children should abide by the rules of 1 1 and behave in a civilized manner.

Politeness is the most basic requirement for everyone, including not spitting, urinating, not talking loudly in public places, obeying traffic rules, consciously queuing, not obstructing public interests for personal convenience, etc. To set this series of rules for children, parents should first examine their children's behavior from time to time.

2. Do what you have to do.

Adults have to work and children have to go to school, which is both our obligation and our responsibility. Therefore, if you don't want to go to school, you can't participate in group activities if you are unhappy, and you can't shrink back if you sign up for your favorite interest class. When children have mood swings and retreat, parents should patiently find out the reasons and help them overcome them.

3. Observation time

Reasonable living arrangements and regular work and rest can enhance children's sense of order, establish a sense of time and improve work efficiency. But it is not easy for children to learn to be punctual. At the same time, parents can try to give the initiative to their children: "/kloc-Please turn off the TV after 0/0 minutes" and "You have to get up after sleeping for 20 minutes".

4. Do your own thing.

If children are taught to do things from an early age, they will be able to take care of themselves before the age of 7, such as dressing and washing themselves, making beds and stacking quilts, packing things, making simple action plans and implementing them. Before children learn to take care of themselves, what parents should do is to let go and spend more time guiding and dealing with the troubles caused by their children's temporary failure.

5, respect others, not willful.

Grandparents, parents, teachers and classmates are all as important individuals as children. Children should be taught to respect their elders at home and not to be angry because their elders do not meet their own requirements. Respect teachers and children at school, don't call names or hit people because of conflicts of interest, and apologize to others for doing something wrong (yiqig. cn).

6. You can't take other people's things

Help children to establish a sense of property rights and distinguish the boundaries between themselves and others: others can't take things, and their own things can be controlled by themselves; Where did you get the public goods? Where should you put it back? Whoever gets it first will use it first, and the latecomers must wait. You must ask the owner's permission to touch other people's things. If you want to play with other people's toys, you must first learn to share.

7. Learn to wait

Children should be taught to wait from early childhood and gradually cultivate their endurance, patience and perseverance. For example, you can watch TV after dinner and go to an amusement park on weekends. At first, you can wait 1 minute, and then increase it to 3 minutes and 5 minutes ... Parents visualize the waiting time through counting and language description (the sun will rise three times, and you can go to the amusement park), which is easier for children to accept.

Rules that children should abide by 2 How to make rules for children

1, when making rules for children, the signal should be clear.

For example, the yellow light on the street indicates that you can park or not. Who stopped voluntarily? Before, I just told my daughter, "I'm going to be late. Do you want to hurry? " How fast? What is fast? Not expressed to her; When making rules, you should clearly tell your child the consequences of doing so. I think this consequence is best related to the immediate interests of children.

2. Be practical and don't label your child easily.

If we adults say something like "You have caused me trouble since birth", it will make Mingming associate himself with bad children and lose confidence. "Since I was born like this, I can only do so. What else should I change? " So don't exaggerate one thing.

3. Punishment must be timely.

Children's long-term memory is poor. She may have forgotten to chew slowly from morning till night. Mom actually doesn't have to say it again; The punishment for children should be practical. If parents' words are unrealistic "threats" to children, such threats have no warning effect on children; When making rules, it's best to tell her clearly the consequences of children not following the rules. For example, if a child eats and grinds time, her mother will tell her as soon as she gets up: eat it within 30 minutes, or take it away. When eating, you can remind her once and tell her how long it will take. You can also add some additional conditions, such as eating on time and giving some rewards. If you don't finish it on time, cancel a discount.

4, to set rules for children, must be simple and easy to understand, so that children can easily abide by.

Children's understanding ability is not so profound and their self-control ability is not strong. Establishing very complicated and difficult rules will confuse her, not make her follow them. It is necessary to make the truth clear, instead of simply and rudely ordering the children, and it is even more difficult to put on a bad face-"You listen to me! I have the final say! " Don't think that children are too young to understand anything. Maybe she can't fully understand what you said for a while, but your calm tone and respectful attitude will make her trust your judgment and obey your requirements. If it is really complicated or incomprehensible, we should kindly tell our children: "This is our rule here" or "This is our family rule" and "Everyone should abide by it".

5, make rules, regardless of time, place and occasion, must abide by.

For example, don't spit everywhere at home, and don't spit everywhere outside. Not today, tomorrow, one at home, one outside. This will only make children confused and at a loss. All the rules are not only for children, but also for parents to strictly abide by and set an example. For example, in order to make children eat regularly, parents should behave themselves at the dinner table, not be picky about food and not waste it. In order to make children polite, parents themselves should use civilized language to everyone, including their own children and all other children.

6. Rules are not absolutely impregnable.

At the request of children, occasionally "relax the policy"-such as replacing dinner with snacks, watching TV at noon, staying up for an hour, etc. -It will relieve stress and make children obey the rules more consciously. Believe in children, don't think that an occasional "indulgence" will form any bad habits (from a mathematical point of view, once is not enough to be called a habit; Habit is the result of a lot of accumulation. Some things, you can let children experience the consequences of "indulgence" personally. Winner a while ago, she asked for ice cream twice a day for two days on weekends. I told her that eating too many cold drinks would make her uncomfortable, but she didn't understand. Eat it twice a day for two days on weekends. A week later, she started coughing, running nose and spitting twice, calling her "uncomfortable". I told her that it was the result of eating too many cold drinks. From then on, she never asked for cold drinks twice a day, but took the initiative to restrain herself and only ate once. Some things, persuasion is useless, just change the way, not necessarily ask directly. For example, babies prefer meat to vegetables. We advised her to eat green vegetables and told her the benefits of eating green vegetables. She just couldn't swallow it, and we didn't let her eat it. Always cook some food with green vegetables, such as steamed stuffed buns and jiaozi, so that the baby can eat green vegetables. Every meal of green vegetables, we eat with relish, let her look greedy. Sometimes she will take the initiative to ask for some, and she will reason with us: "After eating this dish, I will be healthy, not sick, and I will grow taller."

7. Don't use adult's code of conduct to regulate and restrain children.

Don't scold all the naughty behaviors of children as "mistakes". From the child's point of view, it's fun to realize that she threw water on you or something. So instead of getting angry, you gently tell her, "I know it's fun, but I don't like it when you do it." Wet clothes make me uncomfortable. Please don't throw water at me again. "