The influence and bondage of China's long-term feudal traditional consciousness still exists in all aspects of society, and people often consciously or unconsciously reveal the prejudice that men are superior to women. This misconception makes many men blindly feel superior, and also makes many women feel inferior. They also think that they are inherently inferior to men, so they are willing to accept failure and lower their development requirements. The differences between men and women exist objectively, mainly in physiology and psychology. Any idea that men are thicker than women in intelligence and talent is unfounded. The attitude towards women is a measure of a man's civilization, and we should establish a good social fashion of respecting women. Human maternity is human society and its precious spiritual wealth. It is a powerful spiritual force, training girls to be future wives and mothers, and boys to be future husbands and fathers. Mother not only devoted herself selflessly to her own production and racial reproduction, but also made great contributions to the production of social wealth. Therefore, respecting women's education is one of the contents of socialist spiritual civilization construction. Self-respect and self-love should be maintained, so that middle school students can maintain a normal relationship between men and women. The idea that men and women are not close is old-fashioned, which separates young men and women, restricts their normal communication, closes each other's inner world, defiles young new souls and distorts human nature. Many countries are open to the communication and love between boys and girls, and their sex education focuses on physical health care and moral education. In the communication between boys and girls, we should not only educate them to respect themselves, but also educate them to respect each other and be polite, polite and generous. The communication between the opposite sex is different from the communication between the same sex, especially in the transparency of the time, place and way of communication, which should not only conform to our own customs and national characteristics, that is, be natural and graceful, but also avoid causing misunderstanding by others and limit the communication between the two sides to the level of classmate friendship. Once you feel that you have feelings beyond friendship, don't show them easily. You should have lofty aspirations, think more about the requirements of the future society for young people, and think that you don't have the conditions for true love in all aspects at present, and you can't bear all kinds of responsibilities arising from it. Don't do things in summer in spring. Especially in today's society where sexual information is flooding, it is necessary to educate middle school students to criticize the "sexual freedom" and "sexual liberation" in western society and fully understand the serious social problems brought by this trend of thought to today's society, such as premarital sex, extramarital sex, unmarried mothers and illegitimate children, and serious sexually transmitted diseases. It is also wrong to regard sexual intercourse between men and women as a sin and promote the idea that asceticism is decadent, but it is also wrong to regard sexual life as the highest form of enjoyment in life in an attempt to free human sexual activities from legal constraints and moral norms. In our country, we should also carry out education to get rid of the mysterious concept of sex and the so-called concept of chastity. The fundamental way to break the mystery of sex is to carry out sex education and popularize sexual knowledge. Treating chastity correctly, the chastity advocated by feudal society is only aimed at women and not binding on men. In the relationship between men and women, the most fundamental problem is to implement equality between men and women, that is, both men and women enjoy the same rights and obligations, and it is unequal to unilaterally demand women's chastity. Men are responsible for women's infidelity. Women lose their virginity, and men lose their virginity, so they should not discriminate against women who lose their virginity. We should emphasize the seriousness and responsibility of love, cherish our virginity, and it is a solemn and beautiful act to give it to our beloved. But chastity is not everything. We should constantly consolidate the love cornerstone of the combination of men and women, constantly strengthen the sexual feelings of both sides, and constantly enhance the sense of social responsibility of love combination. After entering adolescence, people have begun to have the physical appearance and reproductive ability of adults, but they have to learn complex culture psychologically and socially, which delays their identity as adults. Sexual attraction is a natural attribute, and the combination of human sexes is a social behavior. In China, sexual desire of adults must be satisfied through legal marriage. However, it takes a long time from sexual germination to sexual maturity and even the establishment of legal marriage, that is, the process of delaying sexual desire, which requires sexual health training.
First of all, we should build a civilized and scientific learning environment for sex culture and a healthy and relaxed communication environment for men and women. Facts have proved that the lack of normal communication between boys and girls will further strengthen their mystery and curiosity about the opposite sex. In schools and society, colorful activities involving boys and girls have objectively provided a normal communication opportunity for middle school students. In this way, they can gradually realize that the normal communication between men and women is an important part of social communication and social adaptation, so as to get rid of the wrong idea that the communication between men and women will inevitably develop into sexual intercourse and avoid abnormal psychology such as sexual sensitivity from the beginning of the communication between men and women.
The opposite sex communication is the need of middle school students' mental health development and the need of cultivating students' friendship, which has many advantages: increasing the understanding of the opposite sex, gaining a sense of security and stability; Personality becomes lively and cheerful; Will feel good about everything; Learn to respect yourself and your partner; Behavior must conform to a person's gender identity; Learn to refrain from expressing emotions; Talk about everything and get new information; You will get help and strength in the face of difficulties and setbacks; Help each other in their studies and become smarter; Listen to things and opinions that same-sex couples can't hear; Master social skills, etc.
? Secondly, improve the sensory stimulation threshold of sexual organs. Judging from people's sensory stimulation, the same thing can be reflected differently in different people. For example, a realistic nude painting of a girl is a beautiful work of art for people with artistic accomplishment; For those who don't have this artistic accomplishment, they may consider it. The reason for this difference is the threshold between visual stimulation and sexual desire. The former is "normal" and the latter is "rare and strange". For teenagers, under the premise of understanding, education including sexual physiology, sexual psychology, sexual health and sexual morality can enable them to develop good adaptability and sexual inhibition through their own efforts. In this way, when both sexes are attracted and sexually impulsive, or under the influence of accidental motivation, deviant behavior can be stopped.
Third, we must clarify the relationship between rights and responsibilities. Adolescent middle school students are in the stage of sexual consciousness awakening and sexual maturity, and their understanding of society is still vague. It is true that any sexually mature person has the right to satisfy sexual desire, but some people often forget the responsibilities of society and family. Girls' sexual behavior means being wives and mothers, while boys' sexual behavior means being husbands and fathers. In fact, middle school students can't bear these obligations and responsibilities. This state of "children have children" will undoubtedly seriously hinder the physical and mental health of middle school students. Therefore, we must guide middle school students to use the role of will and regulation to suppress sexual desire and delay sexual satisfaction.
Fourth, we should constantly sublimate the concept of sex. People's feelings are different from other things, and it is useless to suppress or prohibit them. Sublimation theory occupies a prominent position in Freud's psychoanalysis. It refers to the sexual instinct impulse suppressed in the unconscious and turned to various activities permitted or required by society in order to seek disguised and symbolic satisfaction. The practice of sublimation has proved to be positive and effective. A school or class has a strong learning atmosphere, rich cultural, sports and scientific and technological activities, and friendly boys and girls. Beneficially release their exuberant energy, give full play to their intelligence, and make students develop physically and mentally healthily.
If a student has a full life, a strong sense of success and a wide range of interests, his sexual interest will naturally disperse or migrate to his interest in success and yearning; Although the bud of first love has sprouted in his heart, it doesn't occupy too much position, and even he rarely notices it. We should help middle school students, guide them to grasp the door of youth, and learn to express the feelings of love in time and properly.