Leshchinski, a famous educator, once said, "Whoever loves a child, the child loves him. Only those who love children can educate them well. " Love is the need of students. For students, in the process of growing up, teachers are expected to take care of themselves like their parents. If this demand for love is met, students will have a sense of attachment and trust, and regard teachers as their intimate friends. When educating him, they feel from the heart that the teacher is caring for him, loving him and helping him, so that they can cooperate with the teacher well and even do as the teacher says. Many parents will say, "This child will listen to the teacher." If this demand for love is not met, students will have rebellious psychology, feel lonely and inferior, and even distrust teachers. Therefore, many students have different words and deeds. They are completely different inside and outside the school, ignoring the teacher's words, and even some students dare to sing "anti-Taiwan drama." Therefore, we should cast a trusting eye on students, give them a kind smile or a word of concern and encouragement, and pluck the strings in their hearts. In this way, students will naturally believe every word of the teacher and be willing to accept his education.
Second, use equal communication to capture students' ideological trends.
Communication is the most basic life activity in human group activities, and it is a sincere transmission. For a long time, the dignity of teachers has been observed by many teachers. Many teachers always put themselves above their students. Condescending, causing students to be out of place with it. Experienced class teachers always bend down or squat down to communicate with students, so that students feel equal, democratic and friendly, and are willing to approach and communicate with teachers. Everything the head teacher says and does will directly affect the students' feelings. Communicate in a consultative tone, and students will feel that the teacher trusts him; If you can ask the students for advice, the students will think that the teacher respects him very much. Only when there is no mental pressure and psychological burden can students communicate effectively with teachers. Equal communication experience In many places, for example, when a teacher meets a student, the student usually greets the teacher first, and the teacher either nods or says "hmm", which is unfair to the student. If the teacher greets the students first, the students will admire the teacher from the heart, so as to let down their guard and dare to confide in the teacher. This equal flow can bridge the communication between teachers and students, making it easier for teachers to capture students' ideological trends.
Third, create a grateful platform to guide students to discover beauty.
Rodin, a famous French sculptor, once said: "There is never a lack of beauty in life, but a lack of eyes to find beauty." What primary school students lack now is this kind of "eyes that discover beauty". I often hear and see conflicts between classmates because of some trivial things. Those little things were just bumped in the corridor; In the classroom, someone took school supplies to the ground; Someone speaks ill of himself behind his back; Being nicknamed because of looks and other reasons; Someone soiled his desk ... these trivial things were regarded as big things by some students, so we must ask right or wrong or punish each other. Therefore, the light is swearing, and the heavy is punching. The reason is that most students now grow up in obedience. They pay more attention to themselves and less attention to others. They have developed the habit of taking "I" as the center since childhood and will not tolerate any instructions from others. They feel that if they don't "behave" like that, they are Confucianism, and others will "bully" themselves more.
We can forgive their youth and ignorance, but we must not let them develop. We must give them a positive education. To this end, we can carry out class meeting activities with the theme of "praising people around us" and "I want to thank ……" to convey the concept of learning to be grateful and tolerant to students; You can also set up praise columns in the class, such as being helpful, being polite to others, caring for the group, etc., so that students can discover the advantages of others through their careful observation and write the names of outstanding students on them. Gradually, they learn to find the beauty of others and don't blame others too much. In addition, students should be guided to follow the basic ways of getting along with others: first, they should be good at discovering the strengths of others, learn to appreciate others, be happy with their progress, and send sincere congratulations in time; Second, never compare your strengths with others' weaknesses, you are arrogant. Third, learn to be tolerant of other people's faults.
Fourth, grasp the scale of criticism and carry out targeted education.
Evaluation is a means of education, and its significance lies in letting the educated know beauty and ugliness, distinguish good from evil, and distinguish right from wrong, among which criticism is a common method. However, when criticizing students, we must keep a cool head and make clear the purpose of criticism, so as to carry out targeted education. Faced with the "oblique branches" that students grow, I can't wait to "cut them off" at once, which is very likely to hurt students' self-esteem. In fact, every student has his bright spot. The teacher criticized him for correcting his mistakes and making him progress, not "adding insult to injury". Let the students know that as long as he corrects, his classmates still welcome him and his teacher still likes him. In addition, for some seemingly small "small things", they think it is unnecessary to mention things, just criticize them casually. Such criticism lacks strength, students will not take it to heart, and naturally they will not realize their mistakes. How should they correct it? Therefore, criticism focuses on mastering the scale. The intensity of criticism is different at different times, different people, different places and different events. If you want to gain the respect of students, you must be aware of it and do "forget honor and disgrace" when measuring students. Only by mastering the scale can criticism really penetrate the hearts of the people, and students who make mistakes can truly realize their mistakes and understand and appreciate the teacher's good intentions.
Fifth, from another angle, sow hope in the heart of "overgrown with weeds"
In teaching, many students encounter problems. They feel inferior and lost. They are ignorant and do whatever they want. If you blindly teach, criticize and educate, you will have little effect, and sometimes it will be counterproductive. It is better to change their mentality from another angle and sow the seeds of hope in their overgrown minds. The Rosenthal effect tells us that even ordinary students will become confident, cheerful and make rapid progress with the encouragement of teachers' full confidence and affectionate care. Teachers should sow hope for their children with love. Education is an art, it is not enough to have love alone, but also to have a pair of "critical eyes" and a pair of "critical eyes" who are good at discovering the advantages of children. Teachers should be people who sow hope, give children more praise and encouragement, let them see hope, taste the joy of success, and let them have the motivation to learn.
Sixth, give play to the role of peer groups and guide common progress.
The average child lives in a peer group since childhood, but the peer group relationship also has a great influence on the psychological development of students. With the growth of age and the gradual development of children's sociality, their demand for interpersonal communication is getting stronger and stronger. On the one hand, teenagers need to find a sense of belonging and support among their peers in order to get rid of their families and parents. At the same time, peer relationship is also the most important way for them to seek self-growth reference, obtain all kinds of new information and acquire communication skills. The norms and standards recognized by peers are psychologically more important than their elders in some aspects. They hope to get the recognition, understanding and appreciation of their peers and start to establish their own fixed peer network relationship. Friends play an indispensable role in children's lives. Some class collectives did not form a healthy and upward collective public opinion, and were influenced by a small group of people's incorrect remarks and consciousness. Due to the influence of herd mentality, some students' bad psychology forms and develops. In this regard, we should do more guidance to make the peer groups among students develop actively. For underachievers, we can also play the supervisory role of peer groups and collect more personal information about underachievers from them, so as to provide more reliable basis for implementing effective educational strategies and promote the common progress of group members.
Seven, help parents out of the "blind area" of family education.
As the saying goes, "family is the first lesson in life, and parents are the first teachers of students." Therefore, active cooperation with families will help to enhance the pertinence of ideological education. But there are still many "blind spots" in family education now. For example, one of the "blind spots"-the more parents talk, the less children listen. According to relevant surveys, more than 70% of teenagers think that their parents are too nagging, which will inevitably lead to resentment. It can be seen that "nagging" has become a common problem for parents today. The reason is that parents care too much about their children, lack trust in them, or worry that they can't understand what they say, so they repeatedly say, advise and emphasize, but in fact, there are many things that parents will understand only once, and repeated words will only make children feel disgusted and the educational results will be bad. When this phenomenon is discovered, we can remind parents to restrain themselves, encourage them to communicate with their children by interactive dialogue, and give them a chance to express their views and get to know them better. Therefore, in addition to strengthening school education, teachers should also keep close contact with parents and communicate information between home and school, so that education can be coordinated and supported by parents of students, and parents can become scientific and effective educational forces. A two-pronged approach and joint punishment can make students grow up healthily in their study and life.
The ideological education of primary school students is a long-term and arduous task, and the educational achievements cannot be achieved overnight. However, primary school students are very malleable. We should not always insist that "rotten wood cannot be carved", but should carve their tender hearts with hopeful eyes, enthusiastic hands, expectant mood and ingenious methods.