In the family, how to cultivate and educate children to develop good behavior habits is a problem that I often think about.

1. Encourage more and criticize less to build children's good self-confidence.

Take painting as an example. My child likes painting very much, and paints in various places with watercolor pens every day, so that we can see her creative traces everywhere in our house, such as on the refrigerator, on the wall, on the door and so on. However, we never stopped her creative desire because she stained the wall. On the contrary, we encouraged her to "paint very well" and "seem to be better than the last painting". "Do you draw better on paper?"

2. Respect children's choices and give them some room for free development.

Usually, we will ask her advice about things related to her, for example, do you want to learn to dance? This will make your temperament better; Do you want to go to the Children's Palace to learn handicrafts? I want to watch cartoons, which one I want to watch, and so on. There are many such things in life, but we never give her advice and always ask her her own opinion, so I haven't found it difficult for her to choose, and she can express her opinion quickly.

3. More company, a happy childhood can cure a lifetime.

We are usually busy at work, and our children are usually at school, so we have limited time to spend with them every day. Even so, no matter how busy our parents are, they should spend more time with their children and talk to them, which provides us with an opportunity to master the child's psychological dynamics, understand her class life, and understand her happiness and troubles, so as to better care for and love her.

2. Classic family education experience

Children are the treasure in every parent's heart, and we all expect them to thrive. In the process of educating children, besides teachers, parents also play an important role. Family education is as important as school education, and both are indispensable elements for children's healthy growth.

In the process of educating children to grow up, my deepest experience is:

A warm and harmonious family environment is the source of children's healthy growth.

Home is the main activity place for children, and the quality of family atmosphere directly affects children's physical and mental health. Parents must not always quarrel in front of their children, which will make them feel fear, inferiority or even disgust. Not only will it alienate the feelings between children and parents, but it may also lead to extreme behavior among peers. Giving children a safe, comfortable and warm home is the first step to teach them. Family members should love each other and live in harmony. In this regard, we used practical actions to let our son feel the warmth of the family.

Second, it is very important to cultivate children's good moral character step by step.

My son began to attend kindergarten at the age of four and entered the formal education system. We should lay a good foundation for him to take the first step in life and cultivate some good qualities in every bit of life, so as to get rid of the common problem of "self-centered" only child. I think one of the more effective ways is to read classics, such as: let children tell stories like "Kong Rong made pears move" and "Meng Mu moved three times", and put them into practice to make him understand the truth of respecting their elders; Tell him that it is a great pleasure to help others, and let him understand the happiness of helping others; When playing with friends, give and take and so on. In my spare time, I often play games with my son. I said the last sentence: "The child fell." The son continued, "I'll get up at once." ..... enjoy it.

Third, let the children "do it themselves" and cultivate their hands-on ability and self-care ability.

Whether children will develop good behavior habits depends on parents' attention and correct education methods. The first is the concept. Some parents want their children to succeed. They are under increasing pressure in their studies and take more care of their lives, but they leave their children's good behavior habits behind and let themselves go. I think it is particularly important to let children work more and love good habits such as labor. Let children participate in the labor within their power, which can not only cultivate children's working habits and hard-working morality, but also cultivate children's independence, sense of responsibility, self-confidence, willpower and other good qualities and various potentials. So I often compare cooking skills with my son, and I ask him to do some housework within his power. Such as: buying vegetables, washing vegetables, cooking, etc. Of course, children often make mistakes in their work, and may accidentally break bowls and cook pots ... When they don't do well, we can't judge them by adult standards. As long as the child has made efforts, parents should fully affirm and encourage him. This is a challenge for them and requires great efforts.

Fourth, let children be less stressed and more simple.

After studying, we should pay attention to let children relax properly, take half an hour to walk and jog every night, use this time to understand their spiritual needs, and often talk with their children, observe their physical and mental changes at any time, be good at using the little things in life, open their hearts, learn to look at children with appreciation, and be good at capturing the bright spots in him. Don't compare this moment with other children's. Look at the progress vertically, find and affirm any achievements made by children in time, let children feel our praise and encouragement, and improve their self-confidence and good study habits.

Children's education is like farming. What kind of seeds are sown, what kind of flowers will be produced and what kind of fruits will be harvested. Therefore, I sincerely hope that my parents will sow the seeds of hard work, kindness and friendship. Let the flowers of hard work, kindness and friendship bloom in children's hearts. Don't let the psychology of "expecting success" become the pressure of children. Let nature take its course and teach students in accordance with their aptitude, so that children can learn easily. I believe there is no bad land, only bad people!

3. Classic family education experience

As far as family education is concerned, I still have no experience, and I have some goals to share with you. Children, like flowers in spring, are innocent, lively and lovely, and have a strong curiosity and imitation for the world, but their ability to distinguish irrational choices is poor. Therefore, family is not necessarily an enhancer of knowledge, but should be an indicator of ideal education first.

Learning to be a man is the foundation of children, and children will benefit for life. Educate children to have a healthy psychology and personality, and never let them become knowledgeable, eccentric, indifferent to their parents, indifferent to others and society. We should treat children as independent people, fully respect and understand them, and reason with them no matter how big their mistakes are. I have always adhered to this educational principle for children, so that they can get all-round development in all aspects of morality, intelligence, physique and art under the education of schools, society and families, and at least become qualified citizens who are beneficial to society and adapt to modern society.

Dreams are the core of personality. Dream is a conscious pursuit that is gradually formed in children's minds through the inspiration and guidance of parents, teachers and society. Parents can't set goals, set dreams and impose them on their children. The child is naive. They often want to be a writer when they grow up, because they read an article that deeply touched them. They want to be a scientist because they visited a natural museum. They may decide to be teachers when they grow up, because they met an amiable and lovely teacher. Don't easily deny these ideas of children, but encourage them to be enterprising and ambitious. With the growth of age, according to the emergence of different advantages of different children, we will gradually guide them to develop in the right direction.

Correct love for children is the basis of cultivating children's good character. If parents want to love their children properly, they must unify love and strictness. Parents are strict with their children in behavior quality, and children will certainly suffer, but in the long run, it will help cultivate their good character. Afraid of children suffering, too accommodating to children may cause children's willfulness and strong dependence, and they can't stand suffering in later life. In fact, whether children will be happy in the future is more influenced by their personality.

"Confident life for 200 years", confidence comes from the hint of success, and fear comes from the hint of failure. Once the hint of human enterprising is formed, it will help you succeed just like sailing; On the contrary, negative psychological hints, which cannot be eliminated in time, will affect the success of life. The cultivation of self-confidence can't be achieved overnight. It also needs the close cooperation and persistent efforts of parents and teachers. Although there is still a big gap between my daughter's self-confidence now and my expected goal, I believe that as long as the method is proper and persistent, she will become more and more confident.

All children have their own advantages, but there are inevitably shortcomings and mistakes. How to treat every achievement and every mistake of a child is a key issue for parents to study. Parents should not be too happy if their children have some achievements; Don't get angry easily when you make a mistake. On the one hand, you should leave room for your children. On the other hand, you should seize the opportunity to educate him rationally when he knows his mistake. How to treat it correctly depends on the situation at that time.

4. Classic family education experience

5. Classic family education experience

Like most parents, I was afraid of losing at the starting line. I took the initiative to go to the bookstore to buy a lot of extracurricular problems for my children, but I found that my children were unwilling or had no time to do them. When you enter junior high school, you really need to supplement a certain amount of extracurricular independent exercises, but how can you let your children take the initiative to do the questions? Parents can recommend and compare the teacher after class, look through his wrong book, try to extract some similar wrong questions and classic questions for their children, and ask the children if these can help them better understand the textbook knowledge and expand it. After getting a positive answer, tell him the source of these questions and let him go to the bookstore himself. Nowadays, children's extracurricular exercises are purchased by themselves. After finishing their homework every day, they will do exercises at the same time, which can also play a role in reviewing and consolidating in time after class.

Of course, good study and living habits cannot be developed overnight. He is inseparable from the fertile soil of the school, the hard cultivation of teachers and the dribs and drabs of family education. As long as we are patient, persistent and determined, I believe every child can shine.

6. Classic family education experience

The formation of children's good study habits is closely related to the learning atmosphere of the family. There are many books at home because of our occupation. I usually spend most of my leisure time reading books. Children have been in a relatively quiet environment since childhood, and naturally they have developed the habit of loving reading.

Combine positive encouragement with strict and moderate requirements to cultivate children's self-confidence and self-discipline.

There is an old saying in educating children that "strict teachers make excellent students", and the modern educational concept emphasizes that "good children are boasted". But sometimes it is embarrassing to be too strict and afraid of suppressing children's personality, to encourage too much and to be afraid of children's complacency. I think it is more appropriate to combine positive encouragement with strict and moderate requirements.

Get close to nature, learn for life and grow up with children.

A person's life is short, and every day and time he experiences with his children will be the best memories in the future. We try our best to seize and create opportunities, take our children out to travel and see the outside world. We often take our children to nearby scenic spots, parks or rural fields, play games with them, take them fishing in ponds, listen to birds and insects in nature, and go to the fields to see crops in spring and autumn, so that she can understand the truth that man and nature live in harmony.

As a child, she is the spiritual sustenance of her parents; As an elder sister, she is a good role model for her younger brother. As the person in charge of learning, she is very attentive to every member of the group and makes progress and growth with the group members.

7. Classic family education experience

"Home is the warmest harbor." Creating a harmonious and democratic family atmosphere and providing a habitat for children to breathe freely in body and mind is the basic guarantee of good family education.

When entering middle school, adolescent children are a little mature and rebellious, with increasing independence and self-awareness, and have very clear views and attitudes towards everything around them. In the face of growing confusion, as parents, we should tell our children at the first time: parents will always be her strongest support, giving them confidence and courage to overcome setbacks; Take the initiative to approach the child and put yourself in the child's shoes, so as to open your heart, really go deep into his heart and accurately grasp the direction of thinking; Analyze and discuss problems with children in a targeted manner and discuss strategies to solve problems; Help to make a step-by-step feasibility plan and urge its implementation. Only by kissing his "teacher" can he believe his way. Therefore, parents should strive to become teachers, friends and confidants in their children's growth and truly share joys and sorrows.

8. Classic family education experience

"A peaceful mind is a good medicine." The pressure of studying in middle school is increasing day by day, so parents need to adjust themselves, set an example for their children and temper their peace of mind; Help children relieve stress, gradually shorten the adaptation process, and then move on easily. Therefore, we should be supporters of positive forces, not anxiety makers.

We should not only listen to children's voices patiently, but also become "companions" of wisdom. In the content shared by children, they can keenly capture effective information and respond immediately; We should consciously guide the topic, skillfully "input" the educational content, and let the education come naturally in a subtle way. Especially in adolescence, parents must avoid simple and rude beatings and blunt and forced preaching.

9. Classic family education experience

"Concentricity is a powerful force." In the ever-changing times, today's middle school students are no longer "big children" in the traditional sense. They have their own way of thinking independently and have their own unique views on problems. As parents, while cultivating children's extensive reading habits, they should set an example and read a lot of excellent books to enrich their knowledge and improve their comprehensive quality. Have more common topics and hobbies with children, and strive to be "healthy and like-minded" children.

Empower yourself, cultivate children's eternal diligence and enterprising spirit through words and deeds, and never stop. On the road of accompanying children to grow up, parents should constantly activate themselves, face the future and pursue new heights in life.

To be an "important person" in a child's life, first of all, lies in the self-discipline of parents. Actively create a democratic, equal, warm and harmonious living and learning environment, so that children can be positive and sunny whenever and wherever.

10. Classic family education experience

Children are growing up, with little life experience, immature mind and strong plasticity, so we must strengthen correct guidance. Just like a seedling, it must be cultivated, watered, fertilized, mowed and destroyed before it can thrive. Parents should be the guides and founders of their children's lives, enlighten their children ideologically, guide their children behaviorally and emotionally, help them establish correct ideals and beliefs, and develop good ideological and moral character and behavior habits, so as to make their children develop healthily and comprehensively. Since children have the ability to read, they often take her to the library, buy books with her, take the initiative to read her favorite books, and exchange learning experiences with her, so that she can unconsciously develop the habit of being close to books and loving reading while enjoying the spiritual pleasure brought by reading, and enhance her interest in reading and learning. From the time when children go to school, they set up mailboxes at home and communicate with their children by letters from time to time. When she made achievements, she warned not to be complacent, to make persistent efforts and start from scratch; When she fails in the exam, encourage her not to lose heart, believing that failure is the mother of success, and persistence and hard work will always pay off; When she is lazy, remind me not to waste time, to believe that an inch of time is worth an inch of gold, and that heaven rewards diligence; When she has a small contradiction with her classmates, tell her not to haggle over every ounce, to be more understanding and tolerant, to learn from each other's strengths and to unite and love her classmates. In this way, the effect that oral communication is difficult to achieve is achieved.