Therefore, we should pay attention to the "seven responsibilities" when educating children:
First, it is not responsible to the public.
The ancients said, "If you are always humble and young, be careful who gives it to you." Don't blame your children in public. Often reprimanding a child in front of others, or telling his anecdotes to others repeatedly as jokes, will not only hurt his self-esteem, but also make him feel ashamed and used to it, which will virtually strengthen his wrong behavior.
Second, regret.
When children feel guilty and regret, parents should stop criticizing and blaming their children, otherwise it will have a negative impact on their psychology and is not conducive to their healthy growth.
Third, don't be responsible at dusk.
Don't blame the children before going to bed at night. The child is going to bed. If the parents blame him at this time, the child will go to bed depressed, either unable to sleep at night or having nightmares. It is very likely that things will not be solved well and the health of children may be affected.
Fourth, the diet is irresponsible.
With the accelerated pace of life, parents spend less and less time with their children. Three meals a day, especially dinner, has become a rare opportunity for the family to meet. When you see or suddenly think that there is something wrong with your child, you will "take the time" to educate.
This will not only affect the child's appetite, lead to weakness of the spleen and stomach, but also make it easy to cry while eating and inhale food into the trachea, causing cough. In addition, it will destroy the quiet family time and make children feel that eating with their parents is a painful thing, which will cause psychological depression and deepen the gap.
Five, happy and irresponsible.
Don't blame children when they are particularly happy. When people are happy, the meridians are in an unobstructed state. If the child is suddenly scolded, the meridians will be unable to hold back immediately, which is very harmful to the body. However, appropriate reminders are appropriate, and the truth that joy brings sorrow must be constantly felt by children.
Six, sorrow is not responsible
Many parents will be helpless, distressed, even annoyed and angry when their children cry. In fact, crying is a necessary process for children to heal their emotional wounds. If parents blame, children will feel "worse", fall into depression and become inferior.
Parents should understand their children's need for crying. If the child falls and cries, hug him and listen to him cry. When he has cried enough and feels safe and confident again, it is enough to say "there is water where you fell just now". Children can also confidently answer: "I will be more careful next time." Don't worry! "
Seven, the disease is not responsible.
Don't blame your children when they are ill. Sickness is the most vulnerable time, and children need the care and warmth of their parents more, which is more effective than any medicine.