Disciplining children is to tell them the standard of behavior, that is, what can and can't be done. Control must have authority: when children may make mistakes, we must have authority when we want to control them. Let your children know that you are serious, and your request will be accompanied by punishment or reward. Restricting children beneficially can cultivate their discipline. Of course, the control of children must be responsible. And tell your child the reason for your request. Consistency with the child's father: Parents have the same control over the child, so that the child can establish a unified standard of behavior. Even if you don't agree with dad's control, you'd better discuss it with him when the child is not present in the future. Doing so can also establish the authority of both parents.

2. Parents should understand children's thoughts if they are disobedient.

When communicating with the baby, we rarely take the initiative to put down our parents' attitude and listen to the baby. Differences in thinking make it difficult for parents and babies to understand each other. Since the baby has not learned to look at the problem from your point of view, then parents should take the initiative to understand the baby's thinking!

When we adults say that we can't do this and that, we are actually using adult thinking to control our children. For example, if a baby wants to eat sugar, we usually say, "Eating too much sugar is bad for teeth." Many times, the baby is still "disobedient" and insists on eating. Then the mother can listen to him and let him eat from another angle, but add: "If you eat too much polysaccharide and your teeth hurt, you should go to a doctor for tooth extraction, and you should bear the consequences yourself." In this way, the child feels that you are on his side, but at the same time he can hear you "stop politely".

Children should be educated in a gentle way when they are disobedient.

If adults often talk to children in angry and high-pitched voices for a long time, children will get used to adults' "yelling". If adults don't raise their voices and shout repeatedly in the future, it will be difficult for children to accept instructions, and once children get used to high-profile and rude voices, they will gradually adopt a "disobedient" attitude towards moderate and civilized education methods.

So is punishment. Bad or frequent punishment will only make children feel pain, discomfort or suppressed will, and it is difficult to help children realize their mistakes. And willing to cooperate sincerely.

Should children fight if they don't listen?

1, I believe that no mother is willing to hit her child, but sometimes the child makes a mistake and it is useless to persuade her repeatedly. Many mothers just hit their children. In fact, I think when hitting a child, you should tell the child what is wrong, not necessarily corporal punishment.

2. For introverted children, it is even more difficult to fight. Before educating children, let them tell where they are wrong. If they see the child doing something wrong, they will fight without asking or explaining, which will only make the child afraid to touch and do anything in the future. I dare not say that introverted children will develop a sense of inferiority and cowardice in their later lives.

Of course, there is another kind of children who knowingly commit crimes. He kept teaching when he knew it was wrong, which made his mother unbearable. In fact, his mother should calm down and think about why the child is doing this. Maybe the child doesn't know how to express his love for his mother, and only uses one action to attract his mother, even if he is scolded. If so, his mother should pay more attention to her children.

How to educate rebellious children

1. Parent-child communication: Parents will find it difficult to communicate with children who are obviously rebellious. We need to take part in more children's activities.

2. Respect children: Parents should not always stare at their children's weaknesses, and do not compare their own shortcomings with the strengths of other children. When in contact with children, parents should try their best to find the advantages of children and encourage them to reduce their resistance to parents.

3. Empathy: Parents have also come from the rebellious period of youth, but their children are not obvious. Therefore, in the face of children's inexplicable behavior, we may wish to put ourselves in other's shoes and think about why children are like this. With empathy, you will understand the child and find the crux of the problem.

4, avoid talking about achievements: communicate with children, parents should not always learn to enter the topic, which will only make children feel pressure and doubt the motivation of parents to communicate. When communicating, parents can start with family affairs and stabilize their children's emotions before getting down to business.