What are the mistakes in mother's upbringing? Children's educational methods are very important. Many parents also have a headache about children's education. Don't know how to educate them. Let's take a look at the mistakes of mother's upbringing.

What are the mistakes in mother's upbringing? 1 error 1

Take the children to the unfinished house; It is certainly exciting to move to a new house soon, but if a mother often takes her children to visit her unfinished new house, it will easily lead to mercury poisoning of her baby because the paint contains a lot of mercury.

In particular, don't let the baby touch the wet painted wall or wallpaper with small hands, lest they habitually put the painted hand in their mouth. Mercury poisoning can lead to different degrees of paralysis and mental retardation.

Error 2

Let the baby enjoy sweets; Babies lack self-control, and when faced with their favorite sweets and sweets, they can't help eating too much.

Mother's laissez-faire, it is easy for the baby to suffer from respiratory and digestive diseases, or ketoacidosis, causing brain cell damage and affecting intelligence.

Error 3

Children who talk in their sleep; Children often say that talking in sleep is a sign of emotional instability, and mothers should not think that everything will be fine as long as they comfort a few words, which will have a bad influence on children's intelligence in the long run. The correct way for a mother is to take her child to the hospital for examination to see if there is anything wrong with the nervous system.

Every parent wants their children to be smart and invest heavily in intelligence. These measures are understandable, but unfortunately they ignore all kinds of intellectual "killers" in life. Do you know what these killers are?

One of the "killers": harmful elements

Harmful metal elements are one of the intellectual "killers" hidden in life, especially lead and aluminum. Studies have confirmed that as long as children contain 5-15mg of lead per10ml of plasma, it can cause developmental retardation and mental retardation.

Children lick toys with lead paint; Packaging children's food in polyethylene plastic bags; Children often get preserved eggs, popcorn, canned food or drinks. Children often play along the road and inhale car exhaust; Parents smoke in front of their children; Poor indoor gas, etc.

As far as intellectual damage is concerned, aluminum and lead are birds of a feather. Drinking tap water treated with alum, eating meals cooked with aluminum cookers, and often eating food containing aluminum leavening agent such as edible oil strips, bread, cakes and vermicelli are all vulnerable to aluminum damage.

Countermeasures: cut off the invasion channels of the above harmful elements, eat more fresh fruits, vegetables or foods rich in calcium, iron and vitamin C, so as to reduce the absorption of lead and aluminum or promote the timely discharge of harmful metals invading the body.

The Second Killer: Carbon Monoxide

Carbon monoxide is a poisonous gas. When its concentration in the air reaches 35%, it directly inhibits the metabolism of brain cells, hinders brain development, and leads to low IQ.

Worse, we often have to deal with it; For example, the commonly used pipeline gas will produce carbon monoxide when burned; In-line gas water heater discharges waste gas directly into the room.

When heating or cooking in an indoor coal stove, carbon monoxide can also reach harmful concentrations; Household gas cookers and piping equipment were damaged and not repaired in time, resulting in carbon monoxide leakage.

Countermeasures: Try to reduce the source of carbon monoxide, and regularly open windows and ventilate indoors to avoid indoor carbon monoxide reaching harmful concentration.

The third "killer": teasing children

It is reasonable and blameless for parents or relatives and friends to tease their children to show their love. However, the rudeness of some people is debatable. For example, make the baby laugh, even suffocate instantly and damage the brain. Another example is throwing a baby high. Because the baby's head is heavy and the neck muscles are weak, it is easy to shake the child's head after being thrown high.

Countermeasures: To have a good head for children, reject all uncivilized ways of playing.

The Fourth Killer: Obesity

Obesity is not only easy to get sick, but also stifles intelligence. Compared with normal children of the same age, the IQ of obese children with normal weight of more than 20% is very different from that of the latter, and their vision, hearing and acceptance of the former knowledge are at a low level.

Countermeasures: Adjust children's diet structure, reduce fat, pay attention to sleep, exercise more and lose weight.

Fifth "killer": improper diet

Some parents ask children to "eat together" with adults, which ignores the particularity of children and can also "implicate" their intellectual development. For example, monosodium glutamate is safe for adults, but harmful to children.

Because the main component of monosodium glutamate is easy to combine with zinc to form insoluble sodium zinc glutamate, which leads to zinc deficiency in children and affects brain development. Another example is vegetarianism, which is very beneficial to adults and can prevent a variety of "rich diseases" (hypertension, diabetes, coronary heart disease, etc. ).

However, children's brain development is inseparable from fat, especially some special lipids (such as 22 C 6 enoic acid, also known as brain gold) are the most abundant in meat and other meats, so giving children a vegetarian diet will reduce their intelligence level.

Countermeasures: Try to eat less monosodium glutamate and sweets, try to balance the structure of recipes, mix meat and vegetables, and properly arrange brain-nourishing foods such as fish and poultry.

In short, parents must educate their children in the right way, so as to help them grow and develop better.

What are the mistakes in mother's upbringing? 2. Superior material life.

Parents born after 1980s: Superior living conditions enable us to create high-quality material living conditions for our babies! I often hear the communication between parents about how to buy refined nutrition for their children, and I often see them holding toys with hundreds of dollars in their hands.

I even saw parents taking their children under the age of 6 to various classes on rest days, ignoring the physiological needs and life experiences of children during their growth. What children need more is to get direct experience from their parents in life, learn to survive in life and learn to learn in imitation and communication.

"Learning should not be regarded as a display of results, but should pay more attention to the improvement of children's intellectual and non-intellectual factors in the learning process. Parents need to start from the children's own needs and start from the baby's age characteristics, so that the baby can get the happy experience of the most fundamental life learning process in family education. "

Too respectful of children.

Parents born in 1980s: We advocate freedom and democracy and hope to get more respect. We should also be democratic in everything we educate our children. Some parents believe that it is advanced and democratic to give full respect and recognition to every request of their children.

Family education has no specific appreciation. For example, if a child does something right, the parents' praise language will be "The baby is really smart". They don't have the heart to refuse their children's unreasonable demands, nor do they express their dissatisfaction with their unreasonable demands. They believe that this can create a relaxed and democratic environment for children to grow up.

Experts believe that such an approach just ignores one point: unprincipled "democracy" is a blind indulgence to children, which is not conducive to their physical and mental development. "The seemingly' democratic' educational environment is a' black hole' for children to fall into desire.

On the contrary, it makes children lose the happiness brought by democracy and form a self-centered habit, which can't be empathetic in social life, thus affecting the development of children's normal social communication ability. "

Adult mindset

Parents after 80s: I hope my unfulfilled wish can be realized for my children. Parents born after 1980s, who are new parents, have high expectations for their babies and even regard them as their own copies. So after their children are born, they design interest training programs according to their own wishes.

Use the adult's mindset to regulate the baby's behavior. "When the baby understands the world from his own perspective, parents constantly instill their own consciousness into their children's minds and let them talk big and tell the truth, so parents are still complacent."

Experts remind parents that as their babies grow up, they gradually form their own preferences and interests. Parents choose activities for their children according to their own wishes, ignoring the baby's own needs and making the child have rebellious psychology.

"In family education, the word' education' is a bilateral activity, not only the education of parents to their children, but also their behavior. Young parents should regard their children as partners in family education, lower their age, and try to think and play with their children's way of thinking, thus correcting the balance of family education. "

Editor's Note: This paper lists several wrong education methods, which is intended to remind parents that, indeed, in the new era, traditional education methods have been increasingly abandoned, but parents still can't grasp the degree and scope of new education. No matter what kind of education, it should be consistent with the situation of families and children.