First, learn to listen.

Parents should not blindly teach their children to do things, educate their children with a condescending attitude and deny their own ideas. Every child has his own knowledge and worldview. Parents' views cannot replace everything, because children also have their own set of values about how people look at things. If parents only accuse their children of ignorance and incomprehension, it will accelerate their irritability. They don't want to listen, talk or meet their parents. Therefore, parents need to listen more and teach less to help their children become independent. When children are rebellious and disobedient, if parents educate their children by preaching, it will only make them more disgusted, even if they know their mistakes.

Second, learn to let go.

Let the child grow up, listen to him and respect him. Parents should never supervise their children by checking schoolbags, looking for classmates to investigate, eavesdropping on telephone calls, peeking at diaries, etc. And their children should be set free.

Third, give children more autonomy.

When children can make their own decisions, they will feel respected, so they will have a sense of accomplishment and are more willing to communicate and share with their parents. Parents will also be able to help their children solve problems and give advice.

? What mistakes should be avoided in educating rebellious children?

1, fight or scold, totally deny.

Some parents have a bad temper. If children often talk back and play pranks, they often get angry and feel that their authority as parents has been challenged, so they can't let their children continue to be unscrupulous, so parents often take very tough measures. ? , either fight or scold. This extreme approach can not only fundamentally solve the fundamental problems of children in the rebellious period, but also make children close their parents' doors in their hearts, thus getting farther and farther away from their parents.

2. Lose patience and ignore it.

Some parents face some very rebellious children. After several times of education, the children don't listen at all, and parents lose patience and confidence. They think such children are really difficult to discipline, so they start to ignore them and let them go.

Since then, parents no longer take the initiative to ask their children's words, deeds and thoughts. Over time, children will have the idea of "broken cans and broken falls" and their behavior will become more and more inappropriate. When parents regretted it, they realized that they had made a big mistake.