It is really necessary to deal with emotions before dealing with problems.

You are a parent who knows children very well and has high emotional intelligence!

What directly drives people's behavior is emotion. Adults and children do this. The perceptual brain of human beings develops and matures before the rational brain.

For young children, he develops, integrates cognition and constructs experience through feeling and experience.

When a person is an adult, the memory of childhood is more of an emotional memory.

So, you want to solve children's behavior problems and encourage them to improve their behavior. No matter what way you use, you should be reasonable, share experiences, tell stories, play games, and let children experience the consequences of their actions. You should do it in a positive (or calm) emotional state. ?

Without a good mood, there will be no good communication.

Take care of children's emotions first, then deal with things. This is a great parenting principle.

How to operate specifically?

Before communicating with children, you should first observe their emotions, and then "resonate with their emotions at the same frequency."

The child is happy now, you can tell his happiness, and then you can be happy with him.

If the child is unhappy, then you can tell him that he is unhappy, and then you can empathize with him for a while, and don't say anything else.

A person longs for his emotions to be seen by people close to him.

There is a concept in psychology called "unfinished events". Psychological incompleteness means that when an individual's emotional experience is not fully satisfied, it will be suppressed to the subconscious, thus affecting this person's future interpersonal relationships, especially intimate relationships, to varying degrees.

Therefore, if parents always can't see their children's emotions, always skip the emotional step, ignore their children's emotional experience and directly deal with their problems, it may lead to their psychological unfinished complex.

When you fully observe your child's situation and emotions, you will find that not all events need to be guided and solved.

Many times, children's problems are mostly emotional problems. They want their parents to see his emotions and understand his situation.

If parents can do this and give their children a hug, things will be solved.

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