Lei Lei failed in the math exam and was invited by the teacher alone. Although Gaga's mother was calm, she criticized Gaga all the way. Gaga's mother plausibly said, "Your failure in math this time is related to your carelessness." "I didn't!" Gaga protested in a low voice. Before Gaga's rebuttal continued, her mother rudely interrupted, "You are my son, don't I know your character?" You are careless in your work and exam, which are the reasons why you failed in the exam. "Gaga hung his head and said nothing, but his face was obviously ugly. Many parents are just like Gaga's mother. We always put ourselves in the right position, and then put our children in the right opposite. We believe that "patient preaching" actually just makes children sad and ferment, and finally can't stand the collapse.
Many parents evaluate their children's practices according to their own life experiences, and then we think we are right, so we stubbornly instill such a "correct concept" in our children. Deviation of educational concept Some parents' preaching is related to the deviation of educational concept. Just like Sister Zhao, a neighbor in the community, she resolutely denies the education of beating and cursing and advocates "preaching", but the fact is not what she imagined. On the contrary, the children are disgusted with her preaching, which also proves that such patient preaching is not suitable for all children.
Parents defending the so-called authoritative parents' preaching is equivalent to imposing their own ideas on their children. The reason for this behavior is that some parents want to maintain their so-called authority. They are right and their children are wrong. As a parent, don't think that you are right and your child is wrong, otherwise you will never be able to communicate with your child calmly, and you will only let your child be excluded in preaching.
In interpersonal communication, body language can often convey information better than oral language. Therefore, parents should not only pay attention to the information conveyed by their own language, but also learn to use body language when communicating with their children. When children fall, we can often see some parents say, "Baby, get up, it doesn't hurt!" " ! I can't help reaching out to the child. However, there was a look of panic on his face. The child will burst into tears when he sees his mother's expression at this time.